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How? - May 5th 2010, 11:44 AM

How do you put it behind you? How do you forget?
   
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Re: How? - May 5th 2010, 06:29 PM

Hey there Caroline,

Putting abuse/rape behind you is definitely hard because of all the memories and the flashbacks and the hurt. But it is something that you can do. You have to take it one day at a time. Whenever you get a flashback, immediately focus on your surroundings and try and block out the flashback.
Meditation can also help you. Clearing your mind and relaxing can ease the pain and help you put it behind you.
Therapy is also a good thing. Therapy can be anything from talking to a therapist to talking with friends to music therapy or art therapy.
Keep your chin up! You can conquer this!
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Re: How? - May 5th 2010, 08:25 PM

Hi.

I completely agree with Kitty.

I understand who hard it is because you never really have answers for this sort of thing. I think it would benefit you to reach out and ask for help, because talking to somebody can get those feelings you have out.

Once you have told somebody you trust, everything usually gets easier... But you'll always have ups and downs but in the end it's definitely worth it.


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Re: How? - May 6th 2010, 03:26 AM

You never forget, you can't. Sure you can try to block it out of your mind, but that makes it hurt even worse when it surfaces. You can move on from it, but it's not easy. Talking about it, over and over again, just letting it out and accepting that it wasn't your fault, helps. If you keep talking, keep dealing with it, eventually it gets to the point where you can handle it, where you can move on from it, but you can't forget. None of the people I know, who have been abused or sexually assaulted, have ever been able to forget what has happened to them, and for some of them it has been over twenty years, but they have been able to move on from it, to go on with their lives and not let it effect them.

Just stay strong, and hang in there.


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