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im depressed!!!!! - May 6th 2010, 11:02 AM

i was sexually molested by my cousin brother continuously when i was younger...and i cant forget that experience..it was very unpleasant..and the problem is im starting to kind of like this sexual stuff suddenly too...i dont know what is wrong with me all of a sudden..i used to spend a lot of time doing those things alone in my bedroom...and now i feel guilty...guilty that im doing something bad! but the number of times i do it have decreased...atleast thats something..but i dont know..is something wrong with me??pls help me!
   
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Re: im depressed!!!!! - May 6th 2010, 11:46 AM

pleasuring yourself is nothing to feel bad about. It's only natural when it comes to sex. The reason you feel guilty is because of what happened when you were younger, and that wasn't your fault. You have nothing to feel bad about. Nothing is wrong with you.


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Re: im depressed!!!!! - May 6th 2010, 07:24 PM

Hello.

I have a female friend around your age, and she was sexually assaulted by her father nearly everyday for about seven years. I was abused as well, so I understand how you feel. After something like that happens, especially more than once, you start to see things differently. My friend is terrified of all males, because she perceives men as dirty, horrible, and so forth. Same thing about sexual things. You see them in a different way, like dirty, horrible, etc. The thing you should know is, sexual things are not bad, and you should never feel guilty about doing things. You feel that way because you feel bad for doing sexual things, when somebody wrongly used your body for it. It wasn't your fault, so please don't feel bad for it.

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Re: im depressed!!!!! - May 6th 2010, 07:37 PM

Hey,
To be pleasured even by yourself is normal. I promise it does not at all mean there is something wrong with you. Also like Apollo said, once you have been sexually abused you look at sex in a whole new meaning. So don't worry too much about it.

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Re: im depressed!!!!! - May 11th 2010, 09:41 PM

I was once sexually molested when I was 8. I know the fact that I am a guy and that I wasn't actually raped means I can only empathize. But the fact remains that if someone takes advantage of you whilst you are young, you have no need to feel guilty, and nor is it wrong to ever enjoy sexual pleasure again. It is perfectly normal. Just do what feels right, and sits comfortably with your conscience and beliefs. Don't let what another did to you ruin your life. That's my advice anyway.
   
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Re: im depressed!!!!! - May 12th 2010, 10:54 PM

I have also experienced this dilema. Experienceing sexual pleasure is nothing to be ashamed about and nor is it wrong. What is wrong is that we were forced into doing sexual things at a young age, which has made us question our natural instincts. It might be worth seeing a counsellor to talk through these feelings and thoughts.

I was 9 when I was abused and I still have a twinge of guilt when I have sex or masturbate. You can get over this. You can beat those awful men who did this to you. You're strong. You have it in you. I wish you the best of luck.
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