TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives


You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!


Rape and Abuse If you or someone you know is being abused in any way and you need support or advice, don't hesitate to reach out to us here.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
Ms. Music Offline
Member
Not a n00b
**
 
Ms. Music's Avatar
 
Name: Katie
Gender: Female
Location: USA

Posts: 69
Join Date: April 26th 2010

Like Caged Birds - May 20th 2010, 03:17 AM

"We two alone will sing like birds i' the cage so we'll live, and pray, and sing, and tell old tales, and laugh at gilded butterflies, and hear poor rogues talk of court news; and we'll talk with them too, who loses and who wins; who's in, who's out; and take upon's the mystery of things, as if we were God's spies…" --King Lear, Act V, Scene 3

Hey everyone,
I am really down tonight, really sad and really frightened, but most of all really alone. I came across this quote that I read in high school, and for some reason tonight it really touched me. I really empathized with the idea of being imprisoned, with the idea of being a caged bird, watching life pass by on the outside but being unable to join, only watch.
I feel like being carrying the secret of my rape from virtually everyone in my life is my cage. Lots of people talk about the pain, and the memories, but I am not sure many people realize how alone it makes you feel. My abuse has isolated me, made it difficult for me to relate normally. I wish I could get out, relate, but I can't. I feel like the bird, I really do. People accept my prison, but no one pities me and opens the cage, perhaps no one notices. I feel like I am listening, spying on the lives of other people, and laughing at them because they are gilded, unable to fly as well, only they are too stupid to know that they are unable to fly. Perhaps they are just like me, imprisoned by secrets, or perhaps not. I don't know. I do know that this quotation makes me want to cry. Its beauty breaks my heart.
  Send a message via AIM to Ms. Music Send a message via Skype™ to Ms. Music 
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
Emily. Offline
taste the sky
Experienced TeenHelper
******
 
Emily.'s Avatar
 
Name: Emily
Age: 29
Gender: Female
Location: middle of nowhere

Posts: 689
Join Date: February 3rd 2009

Re: Like Caged Birds - May 20th 2010, 11:11 PM

Hey there.

I can really relate to how you have said you're feeling. I've always felt like carrying that secret of sexual abuse or just any abuse in general really does cut you off from everyone else. But the thing is, we have the power to let ourselves out of that cage. By talking about it and opening up to those around us. We can free ourselves.

Maybe try talking to someone about what you've been through? I know it can be scary, but it really does feel so incredibly freeing to just get it out.

I hope you're doing okay. I'm here to talk if you ever want to.
<3 Emily


"Sometimes it's a struggle to be not who you want to be, not who you used to be, not who you're going to be,
but just being right where you are, who you are"

   
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
Ms. Music Offline
Member
Not a n00b
**
 
Ms. Music's Avatar
 
Name: Katie
Gender: Female
Location: USA

Posts: 69
Join Date: April 26th 2010

Re: Like Caged Birds - May 21st 2010, 12:07 AM

Thanks... I have considered talking about it, but I am so frightened that people won't believe me, or think that I am only doing it for the attention. I hope that someday I do find the courage to tell someone my story, but right now the fear is just too much. :-/ I guess it seems really silly because I am the only one holding myself back from taking a big step towards recovery. I just feel like what happened is so horrific that others will turn away. Maybe I just haven't encountered the right person to talk to about it yet.

Last edited by Ms. Music; May 21st 2010 at 02:28 AM.
  Send a message via AIM to Ms. Music Send a message via Skype™ to Ms. Music 
  (#4 (permalink)) Old
Emily. Offline
taste the sky
Experienced TeenHelper
******
 
Emily.'s Avatar
 
Name: Emily
Age: 29
Gender: Female
Location: middle of nowhere

Posts: 689
Join Date: February 3rd 2009

Re: Like Caged Birds - May 21st 2010, 03:54 AM

Maybe it would help to talk to someone about it anonymously first? Sometimes that makes an easier step to begin with. You can always use the LiveHelp or HelpLink system here on TH anonymously. My PM box is of course always open too.

You truly deserve to not have to hold this in and to have a support sytem around you. Be good to yourself.

<3 Emily


"Sometimes it's a struggle to be not who you want to be, not who you used to be, not who you're going to be,
but just being right where you are, who you are"

   
  (#5 (permalink)) Old
Ms. Music Offline
Member
Not a n00b
**
 
Ms. Music's Avatar
 
Name: Katie
Gender: Female
Location: USA

Posts: 69
Join Date: April 26th 2010

Re: Like Caged Birds - May 21st 2010, 09:15 PM

Thanks a ton. I might try that, something anonymous. Perhaps once I have been here longer I will being to make more friends on TH. Thanks. How did you first tell someone?
  Send a message via AIM to Ms. Music Send a message via Skype™ to Ms. Music 
  (#6 (permalink)) Old
Emily. Offline
taste the sky
Experienced TeenHelper
******
 
Emily.'s Avatar
 
Name: Emily
Age: 29
Gender: Female
Location: middle of nowhere

Posts: 689
Join Date: February 3rd 2009

Re: Like Caged Birds - May 21st 2010, 10:47 PM

LiveHelp and HelpLink here on TH lol. Then I worked up the courage to tell one of my teachers. It gets easier the more you talk.


"Sometimes it's a struggle to be not who you want to be, not who you used to be, not who you're going to be,
but just being right where you are, who you are"

   
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
birds, caged

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




All material copyright ©1998-2019, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.