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Is this abuse? - July 11th 2010, 09:14 PM

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So, yesterday my dad and I were cleaning out the garage. He was getting mad at me, and he had started yelling. I was trying to straighten up in one of the corners when I asked him where a driveshaft went. (If you don't know what a driveshaft is, its really heavy) I had handed him it, and when I did he got mad saying "why did you ask me that?" and he then slammed it down on my hand. My hand is bruised, and at the time was bleeding from a blister I had before.

My boyfriend said its abuse, but is it really?

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Re: Is this abuse? - July 12th 2010, 02:28 AM

Physically inflicting pain on somebody who doesn't ask for it, can be considered abuse especially if it's reoccurring. Maybe you should mention it to your mom, and see what she thinks. & once your dad has calmed down in the next day or two, ask him about it. Tell him how it felt and how you feel that it was slightly aggresive and you don't think you deserve it. Either you'll realize that he was very upset and didn't mean to hurt you, or you'll find out things about him are changing and you need to get help so he doesn't hurt you more. Best of luck, and I'm always here.

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Re: Is this abuse? - July 14th 2010, 02:17 AM

Yes that is abuse.
You need to tell sombody.
He can't harm you like that & get away with it.
Maybe try soical severs or stay at anotehr reltives house if you can .
If he is saying really mean things to you
thats mental abuse & is just as wrong.
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Re: Is this abuse? - July 14th 2010, 02:38 AM

Yes, if he slammed it down on your hand it's abuse. But it might have just been from him being mad and acting out of the frustration he had at that time. If it's happened before though, or if it happens again, I would tell someone about it.

Maybe in a few days or when he's calmed down, you could calmly go up and ask him what happened and you can see how he feels about the situation.

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Re: Is this abuse? - July 14th 2010, 02:44 AM

i think it is abuse....has it happened b4? u should tell your mom if shes ok with you...
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