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Unhappy Help - July 21st 2010, 08:15 PM

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ok when i was 3 years old my mum would drop me off at her friends house to go shopping and her friend would go with her and i was left with her son thats when he started raping me and once he even called me to play and i whent to him and he locked door and started doing that again i was really young that time i didnt know what was going on and he only did when mums where out and he stopped doing it after 3 months.....my big brother suggested this site for help and i dont whant to tell parents because they would go over the roof! so please help me.

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Re: Help - July 21st 2010, 08:45 PM

Hey, First off I want to say welcome to the site
Secondly, I'm really sorry to hear what you are going through, but you have done the right thing in posting on here for help. We are all here to support you, and one thing that you need to do is not blame yourself. This is a horrid thing to happen and I, along with many others can understand your pain. Well done in telling your brother, is there anyone else you feel you could go to? Such as the police?
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Re: Help - July 22nd 2010, 12:41 AM

I want to say well done for telling your brother and reaching out for support. I know that can be a REALLY hard first step Sounds like what you went through was awful. I can imagine that's had a big impact on your life. How are you feeling about the situation now? How do you think it still effects you? Do you remember details or just the feelings? How can we help you recover (as best you can) from this? Perhaps you should explore your feelings about the whole situation. Identify some of your emotions and start there.

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Re: Help - July 22nd 2010, 05:44 AM

Hey there,

First of all, I want you to know that you did the right thing by telling your brother about what happened. I know that must have been extremely difficult...but it will be well worth it in the end. You do not have to go through this alone; you are loved, and your friends and family want nothing more than to help you through this.

I will not lie; when your parents find out about what happened, they will be upset....but they will not be upset with you. They love you, and it will hurt them to know that you were put through something so terrible and traumatic. However, it will help them SO much when they know what's going on...as I said before, they just want to help. Let them in, allow them to support you. I know you can do this.

In the mean time, take good care of yourself. Many users here on TeenHelp know how hard it can be to get through the day some times. Push on, stay strong. Talk to us, talk to your brother. Talk about how you're feeling until there's nothing left to say. Communication is such an important tool in recovery, especially when it comes to sexual abuse. I've also found that writing can be extremely helpful, especially if you don't particularly feel like talking to someone at the time.

Take care of yourself. If you'd ever like to talk, feel free to send me a private message.


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Re: Help - July 23rd 2010, 03:38 PM

Hi dear, I'm so so sorry that happened to you. That was super brave of you to tell your brother about what happened. That's definitely a step in the right direction. Another really good step would be to tell your family. Unless you're absolutely sure it would only bring harm instead of help. I hope that this helped in anyway! Let me know if you need anything at all.
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Re: Help - July 24th 2010, 02:20 AM

It's very brave of you to come and ask for help... I know you may not want to tell your parents but I would like they would want to support and help you through this... I would strongly recommend that you think about telling them.

I also think you should report it, what he did was wrong and he needs to face up to the conciquences of his actions.

Then I think you should seek counselling, I know how hard it can be to face things in your past that are scary but I promise you counselling can be a really healing process.
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