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Am I horrible? - July 27th 2010, 02:08 AM

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OK so I was sexually abused at the age of 15 from my little brother who is 12 drom December till about a month ago. He molested me but never actually raped me and would do it when he thought i was asleep( which I was some of the time) and the first time I didn't trigger it but after that for a while I would pursuade him by touching "it" and putting my hand on it while pretending to be asleep. Now it has recently stopped and I feel horrible for what I did. Am I a bad person or was it just our "hormones"... Help I can't get the thought of what happened out of my head I think about it 24/7... WHAT DO I DO?

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Re: Am I horrible? - July 27th 2010, 02:50 AM

Umm. OK. A few questions: how old are you now? Are you male or female? How many times did this happen?

So much is made of sexual abuse now, and I'm not discounting the issue of abuse, that it's possible that kids may be primed to consider sexual abuse what may really be normal exploration between siblings. It doesn't sound like there was coercion involved and it sounds like you became willing to participate, so I'm inclined to think this isn't very serious. If nobody did something that hurt someone or felt compelled to do something they really didn't want to do, it may be that no harm was done, especially since you no longer do it, which is a normal outcome.

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Re: Am I horrible? - July 27th 2010, 02:56 AM

This is his fault because he was the one mollesting you. I think you should have told your parents about this, gotten him to stop. What he was doing is not right at all.
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Re: Am I horrible? - July 27th 2010, 06:27 AM

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Re: Am I horrible? - August 9th 2010, 09:28 PM

It was his fault.

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Re: Am I horrible? - August 10th 2010, 12:57 AM

i think just saying its his fault is a bit minor.. i dont think blame should be placed here.
i think what he did was wrong, but at that age curiosity obviosuly kicked in.. it doesnt make what he did right. but it doesnt sound like he did it maliciously or meant any harm. and becoming a willing participant even if you were confused.. obviously just kept it going.
im sorry thsi has happened.. but i think you need to talk to him.
i dont think ur in any danger from him but then ic oudl be wrong or have read the post wrong.
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