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need some advice - August 1st 2010, 02:33 AM

ok so a few months ago i noticed a guy would follow me when i was at the mall near my house and one day i was walking home and he was still following me so i went away from my house to try to lose him but i ended up near a small wooded area where he dragged me into the trees and raped me. i was afraid to tell my parents what happened because i wasnt supposed to have left my house but i decided to tell my boyfriend. a couple weeks ago i saw him again and my boyfriend tried hiding me in the bathroom near us but someone saw us and thought we were going to have sex. i tried telling what happened but i didnt tell all of it so no one believed us and my parents got a restraining order against my boyfriend. i want to tell my parents so i can be with my boyfriend again but i dont know if they will drop the restraining order. also im not sure how to tell them. help?
   
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Re: need some advice - August 1st 2010, 04:34 AM

Tell your parents the truth. Tell the police what happened.


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Re: need some advice - August 1st 2010, 04:53 AM

Just tell them the truth.


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Re: need some advice - August 2nd 2010, 02:08 AM

my parents dont listen or care when i try to tell them. they act like its not important and i should just get over it. any ideas on how to make them listen?
   
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Re: need some advice - August 2nd 2010, 02:47 AM

It was a crime - inform the police. They'll have to listen to the police.


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Re: need some advice - August 2nd 2010, 03:33 AM

ok i know its very hard to talk about these things in the first place because something similar happened to me but you have to explain what really happened to your parents and tell them about how you left out the details and why. They are your parents of course they care they just are trying to do what they think its best for you and don't realize what is going on. Even if they don't believe you then you should tell the cops because then they have to listen to you either way. And this time tell the cops what really happened dont skip what you know they need to hear ok? It might be hard for you to do at first but it will benefit you and your boyfriend and make sure that creep doesnt come back or hurt anyone else!
   
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Re: need some advice - August 2nd 2010, 05:43 AM

try write it down in a letter to each of them
explaining exactly whats hapend y u were where u were and y u havent told them yet.
explin how it made u feel and that u keep seeing him.
then explan what happend with your boyfriend and that it wasnt what they thought and u2 wouldnt do that. say he repects u to much after what happend.

and put the end that u wanna talk to them both but dunno what to say so its easier to write.

mention u really miss ur bf and want him bck ask them to drop the restraining order snd help u tell the police the truth so they can take the rapest from the streets and protect others.

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Re: need some advice - August 2nd 2010, 07:01 PM

Honey, I would tell the police. Rape is a crime. This is your body that was violated. The police deserve to know exactly what happened so they can stop this man from doing the same thing to other young women. I know it won't be easy, but just know that you've got friends on this site that will listen and always try to help.




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Re: need some advice - August 9th 2010, 03:59 AM

It's really difficult to get through something like this, honestly, i would know. But one of your fears may be that your parents won't listen. But you need to at least try, see if a close friend will maybe help you tell them? You can get a rape kit done at the hospital to prove that you were raped. If you need someone to talk to then just message me, I would love to help as much as I can.
   
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