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need advise. - September 21st 2010, 11:32 PM

Last night I went out to have dinner at a mates place. At the dinner, I had forgotten my mate had anger issues and he had come off his meds, he snapped and tried to choke me and put bruises on my wrists. When I got home I was in a right mess, and my boyfriend got very grumpy at me, thinking I got those bruises through sexual means. I have tried to explain to him that that wasn't the case, but he has been cheated on in the past and doesn't fully believe me. I have put a lot of time and effort into helping my friend get to a better place in life, and it upsets me that he threw it all away, also that my boyfriend still doesn't fully believe me. How can I let him know that I didn't have sexual intercourse with this friend, and that he trued to kill me without him loosing it and going to hurt him back. my boyfriend cares a lot, and knows I haven't had the best life. I don't want to loose him.
   
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Re: need advise. - September 22nd 2010, 01:05 AM

tell your boyfriend you would like to tell him what really happened and its not what he thinks it is but he has to promise to stay calm and not react and then tell him what really happened after he promises
   
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Re: need advise. - September 22nd 2010, 01:31 AM

Thanks for that, I did, He kind of flipped out and wants to hurt him, but hes calmed down, and now I'm getting loads of hugs, which is making me feels a lot better about the situation.
   
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Re: need advise. - September 22nd 2010, 10:15 PM

I am glad you were able to talk to him. I suggest you explain to him that hurting your friend will not help matters. As for the friend; I suggest that you cut off all contact with him. You deserve to be in loving, safe and caring friendships and it sounds like this one is plain dangerous. While it may be hard to cut off contact it will be in your best interest to do so.

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Re: need advise. - September 25th 2010, 12:31 PM

I have done so, Removed him form Facebook, and deleted all phone numbers on my cellphones/not replying to any he sends. My boyfriend has cooled off, and understands that I don't want it to go any further. I have now got a lot of bruises around my throat, and wrists, a few on my ribs etc, and around my shoulders/collar bone area. he it still frustrates him when he sees that, but he wont take it further.
   
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Re: need advise. - September 26th 2010, 02:25 AM

I'm glad things are working out for you now and i am sorry that i couldnt give you perfect advice but atleast it worked out in the end
   
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