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Blast From The Past - October 21st 2010, 08:29 PM

Fffff this really sucks.

I was raped/molested when I was six, which was about eleven years ago. So now that I'm matured and I now have my own sex drive and sexual interests it makes me think of him.

I guess it makes me feel dirty and feel just like him. His face always pops up in my head some times when I think of sexual things (no, I'm not going to molest children- I love them and I'm above that)

But it's irritating and makes me feel pretty bad. It doesn't help that I had a nightmare about him over a week ago.

I'm pretty sure that, unless I talk with my counselor extensively about it, I won't enjoy sex as much as I think I would, because it'll just bring back bad memories. I'm not too worried about that part right now, because I'm not in a relationship and I don't want to have sex until after I'm married.

What's the best way of dealing with this? I know that I have every right to have sexual desires and feelings and whatnot, since everyone has them. But I can't get his image out of my head whenever I do think of them.


   
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Re: Blast From The Past - October 24th 2010, 05:57 AM

Hey Mariah,

It sounds like you're having a bit of a hard time right now. But it's normal to feel like you do after what you've been through. And I think the best thing you can do right now, is talk to your counselor about. She/He will be able to help you through this.

I would also advice, that when you do have sex, you inform your partner of your past. That way he'll know to be gentle and follow your lead. Your counselor would probably tell you all of this anyway.

Talk about it, you'll feel better, I think. Talking usually helps.

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