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Exclamation seriously think i've been raped. - October 25th 2010, 12:15 AM

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The day before my ex and i had sex, (i was a virgin, he was not) of course we've done things over the phone and in text messages. and stuff. and we decided we'd do it the next day.. but that next day i told him i wasn't sure i wanted to, he told me no it'll be fine, you'll be fine. and basically forced me, by the end, i basically enjoyed it and grew to like it, call me crazy. But idk if thats considered rape?

I've had a pregnancy scare with him. Twice.
I've been tested for STDS because the condom broke.
and today he told me to leave him alone, and i don't even know how to deal.
he's 19. and i'm 17.

I don't even know what to do right now i'm at a loss of words.
I can't report it, i can't deal with him in a "orange jumpsuit" and i can't deal with my mom knowing really what went down when her and my dad were at the wedding that night. I just can't.
   
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Re: seriously think i've been raped. - October 25th 2010, 06:05 PM

Do what you believe to be nessicary if you don't want to imprison him file a restraining order at least they simple legally. But do what you think not what others tell you.
   
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Re: seriously think i've been raped. - October 26th 2010, 07:19 PM

If it wasn't consensual, then yes, it's considered to be rape. It is possible to react positively to rape.. you're human and it's not abnormal for your body to react this way. But to answer your question, if it was against your will then it's technically rape.

It's perfectly okay if you don't feel comfortable reporting it - it's hard to talk about, isn't it? And getting parents involved is definitely a scary thought. You may want to think about telling your parents though - just consider it, you don't have to tell them if you aren't comfortable doing so. It also sounds like this guy's put you through quite a bit, with the pregnancy scares and such, and now this. It might be time to think about whether this guy is worth it, and whether this is really a good relationship for you to be in. You really do deserve so much more than this.. you deserve a guy who's going to treat you well, a guy who won't put you through the emotional pain that this guy's put you through.

Let me know if you need anything, okay? Take good care of yourself.



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Re: seriously think i've been raped. - October 26th 2010, 10:04 PM

It's been a long road with him i won't lie.
I don't want to call it rape.
So i'm calling it him pressuring me after i changed my mind from yes to no...
Its not that big of a deal anymore, i was just thinking about it, and finally told 3 of my friends and my mom about it. But its over with and done with. I don't want to report him, because that'll just ruin his life, and i'm not that mean. We had good times together too, may not seem like it, but we definitely did, and i just can't do this to him...
----> definitely love him. and definitely hate him.
and DEFINITELY done with him.
and for sure ready to move the hell on (:


just hurts to remember what happened that night. its just a replaying memory in my head.. not so fun. ha buts its fine. when i turn 18 i'll let my psychologist know, if i tell her now, she'll report it and he WILL go to jail. thats why i can't talk to any other adults.
   
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