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Scared... How do you cope? - November 9th 2010, 11:55 PM

A few years ago either was or almost was raped... I remember the first few minutes of the attempted rape & then the memory blacks out untill the next day... Right now I'm really parinoid, because I was in a store & the same senario occured... If you were/was almost raped, how did you handle your life afterwards & did you ever emotionally recover?


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Re: Scared... How do you cope? - November 14th 2010, 05:23 AM

Hey there, Izzy.

I'm sorry to hear what you have been through. I hope you know what happened was not your fault at all.

And it's fairly common to block things out when they are traumatic. When our minds can't handle something they push them away to protect us. Sometimes they'll come up in flashbacks or they can stay locked away for years. Everyone reacts and protects themselves a little differently.

You can recover from all this, though. I think it could really help you to talk to someone like a therapist. They can help you process and work through the memories and the assault. Finding ways to heal and healthy ways to cope is a really important part of moving forward.

You will get through this, Izzy. Reach out and talk to people. You really deserve to have support through all of this.

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Re: Scared... How do you cope? - November 17th 2010, 11:58 AM

I know this is hard but don't shield yourself forever , don't let the bastard who hurt you ruin your life.

Hang in there!




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Re: Scared... How do you cope? - November 17th 2010, 12:57 PM

Hi Izzy. Yes, blackouts do occur in some. It is very normal. Its the minds way of protecting us. Blocking out the bad things. Have you seen a therapist? It is a really good starting point Izzy. They can provide you with the tools you need to aid in your recovery. If you have tried one, and it didn't work for you. I would suggest trying another one. I have had three now. I have finally found one who understands me and gets me. The other thing I would suggest is writing. Writing your feelings down and maybe sharing them with a very close friend or therapist can help. But do not do something you are uncomfortable with. I write all the time. It seems to help me a lot. You can recover. Its just probably going to take a while.

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Re: Scared... How do you cope? - November 17th 2010, 09:21 PM

hey,

i was raped..idk how i coped..i guess i just found support from others...and in the end, i managed to survive. If you need anything at all...feel free to PM me..any time. ..and i promise..it will get better some day.


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Re: Scared... How do you cope? - November 30th 2010, 06:15 AM

i wasnt raped but i was sexually abused by my father. no one noes from my family but my father has moved out because of fights with my mother. every day i hate my self for letting him do this to me. im not a virgin because of him. i wanted to save it for te boy i fell in love with. its been almost a year now and im getting better but if you ever need someone to talk to im always free
   
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Re: Scared... How do you cope? - December 1st 2010, 01:13 AM

Coping is difficult to start with, but more so when you're alone. Know that other people have lived through similar experiences, myself included. I'm so sorry to hear that you've been through it, but I know you'll be able to get through it.

I urge you to to report it. You deserve justice in this situation. But I know how hard it is, so I understand if you feel that you can't. If you ever need an ear, let me know. I'll help listen.

Again, I know you are strong and capable of getting through this. I admire you for simply asking for help. It means you are a survivor. That is important.



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