i left feeling terrible...

[Ann2012]

Warning! This may contain explicit content!

So last night my friend and I were hanging out and she wanted to go see her guy. We went to his house and he had a friend over, they are in college. My friend and her guy went into the other room and I was left alone with this guy I had just met and I knew he was interested in me. Well this guy has me lay down with him on the bed and we start kissing, and I'm thinking it's okay as long as it doesn't go further. I even told him I was waiting until marriage (a lie). Then he tries to get me to give him a BJ and I'm not into that so I can't and he keeps begging me to but I wouldnt. He started to kiss me again and then took my hand and he tries to get me to give him a HJ... I wouldn't.

He kept trying to get me to do things and he even tried unbuttoning and unzipping my pants TWICE. I told him I can't and he said "I'm not doing anything" and I said "then why are my pants undone?" And then fixed them. At one point he said "you don't have to do anything, leave it to me and just lay back." Next he had me sit on the side of the bed and had my legs up in the air, you can guess what he was trying to do, I made sure he couldn't by keeping my legs closed. He tried playing with my boobs and sucking them and he even forced me to lay down by grabbing my arms. Then he made me sit on top of him... and he started rubbing me...

He was intimidating by his height and there were a lot of guys in the next room. I was afraid to leave but afraid to stay. I was afraid he would force me into more or the guys in the other room would if I tried to leave. I felt violated and he's still bugging me to do sexual things with him. I wasn't attracted to him and I have a bf, he knew that. Things aren't working out with my bf though and it's basically not even a relationship at this point, just a nightmare. The whole time I kept saying no, I want to respect my bf and he just kept making up excuses and then told me I'm a good gf for wanting to respect a guy I didn't like anymore and asked me out. I told him no. I had to pry his hands out of my clothes and off of me at some points.

I feel terrible and I'm afraid he'll make me go further. I know I shouldn't have gotten myself in that situation and I should have known better... I'm afraid all college guys are like that and I wont be able to find anyone.

I'm sorry it's so long. I just need some thoughts and advice.

Thanks.

[Believe.]

I'm so SO sorry you were in that situation. I'm not exactly sure about everything i read, i got a little confused towards the end but first thing first: you're friend shouldn't have left you alone with the guy. I think that was rude and if you see yourself being left behind by her again, try not to go with her places, ok? Next, This guy should have understood that no meant no, he sounds like a horndog for trying those things on you, BUT know that not all college guys are like that. My best advice would have been to get up, and look for your friend or leave without her :/ I know you said there were guys in the next room, so i'm sure you were so scared! I'm sorry you had to go through that... =( About your boyfriend, if you don't like him, you don't have to be with him. Just like that college guy, the fact that you didn't want to do things with him, meant you didn't have to do things with him. And i'm proud of you for not letting yourself into temptation or into peer pressure. Please know that there are some deceant guys left out there. I would recommend thinking twice about your friend, boyfriend, the college guy, and where you go because sometimes the world can be a scarey place if you're not careful. IF the college guy tries to do the same thing to you again, stand up to him, (with some friends if you can) and try to stay away from being left alone with him in a room again. =/ you just tell him to leave you alone and you didn't like what he did that night. then walk away or change your number or do whatever you have to do, ok? I hope this helps.. and again, i'm sorry about what happened.

[Ann2012]

Im planning on breaking up with my boyfriend soon but I know it'll break his heart so I've been putting it off.

My friend is my bestie and she's a horn dog and she really likes this guy. She asked if I was going to be okay and I told her yes because I thought I would be and I knew she wanted to be alone with him. I didn't think someone would really be like that. I told my friend about it later and she apalogized. We were the same age but I'm still in high school and he's a basketball player in college.

I wont be telling my bf because I see it as cheating on him and I feel low and dirty from it. I suspect i was sexually abused as a child and this just scared me so much. Physical contact too soon is scary. I hate cheaters and I became one.. I hope it never happens again.

I forgot to mention that my friend and I had been drinking, we didn't drink much though.

[FlyingTrue]

It is a good thing you told your friend about his actions and hopefully she will be more weary of him. I suggest that you file a police report for attempted rape and sexual harassment if he continues, because it is plain as day, he had no right to do what he did.

Fools like the guy that attacked you are a rare anomaly. Be assured, not all guys are like that. There are many wonderful people out there who would feel privileged to have you in their lives and would treat you right.

[Ann2012]

Originally Posted by FlyingTrue

It is a good thing you told your friend about his actions and hopefully she will be more weary of him. I suggest that you file a police report for attempted rape and sexual harassment if he continues, because it is plain as day, he had no right to do what he did.

Fools like the guy that attacked you are a rare anomaly. Be assured, not all guys are like that. There are many wonderful people out there who would feel privileged to have you in their lives and would treat you right.

I don't want to do that because I feel that I brought some of it onto myself. He could have ignored me completely and just went ahead and forced me into having sex but he didn't. I just feel sick from it and I'm afraid it'll get around and he'll lie about it. I'm considering going to a 2 year college in the next town after this year because of it. I just don't know...