how to overcome?

[Climber]

I have a difficult time letting go, and accepting my childhood abuse. My social personality is next to destroyed because of it, and I cannot cope in numerous, simple situations in life. Any sort of love or sex life is impossible. I see adults suffering from the same thing, and I wonder if there is a cure. I have tried talking about it with a counceller. It helps, but the memories eventually seep back and haunt me again. As much as I try to think about different things, stay busy and ignore/ repress them, I know I cannot do that forever, as they only come back stronger and worse. I feel angry that others live great lives, and do not have to deal with this. I feel upset that no matter what I do, the memories and social ticks will always remind me of it. I feel depressed that my life/ future/ personality will always be defined by my childhood abuse, no matter how hard I try...I guess my question is to people to have sucessfully overcome these things, and are living their lives despite of it...how did you do it?

[m89c]

Hi.
I am really sorry for you.

We can't escape our past, it will always haunt us.
But on the other hand, we can try to live with it.

[rosaleah]

There is no "easy way out" for this one. Im sorry to say this but you probably wont be able to "forget" that this happened to you in your past. But you can learn to live with it. You have tried to ignore it and you say it always comes back. You should continue to see your counselor, they help and they always listen. They help with making you feel less alone in your situation. Hope things get better.

[Kitty.]

Hey,

I’m glad to hear that you have attended therapy. Are you still attending therapy? Even if it is only helping a little bit, it’s still good to attend therapy because every little bit helps. I know it may seem daunting to overcome and accept the fact that you have been abused. The truth is, you can overcome and accept it; it’s simply a long process. Unfortunately, the memories will always be there in some form or another. The trick is to accept it and overcome it to the point of where the memories are not a great bother to you. The next time that you are going through a time where the memories are hitting you hard, write down the memories, tell yourself that you accept that it happened, and then rip the paper to pieces as a sign of overcoming the abuse. Your life does not have to be defined by your childhood abuse. Don’t give up on your recovery.

Take care,
Kitty.

[dredear]

I'm sorry that you had to go through this, but unforunatly you won't forget those memories. You can learn to live with them without them taking over you. You have to learn to accept what has happended. And only then can you move on.

[Sythan]

I would encourage you to keep attending therpay, just talking to someone can get a lot off your chest.

I believe you can stop it from affecting you. I overcame severe depression, I was near suicidal because I was so worried and confused about my sexual indentity. It took a long discussion with myself to finally realize I was the only one who was keeping myself from happiness. I allowed it to take control of me, I allowed it to affect me, and I realized I was the only one who could stop it. So I did, I refused to let the worry and fear take hold of me. As if overnight, I lost all depression and suicidal thought, I woke up laughing and smiling.

You are in control, not what happened to you. You define yourself.

[Justin Bieber]

I've tried just about everything for the last ~6 years. The first thing I've found that's helped; a support group. It's apparently the best resource for survivors and has been proven to help dramatically. I'd highly recommend going to one.

[Always&Forever]

I am having the same problem if u would like to message me we can talk about it together!