Dad,

[dredear]

Hi, Im Dre. Im 15 and my life has never been easy. When I was 13 my dad walked out on me, my mom, and my brother. When I was a kid my dad used to rape me, my mom knew, but she never stopped him. That went on for several years. After he left my brother started being physically abusive towards me. He blamed me for dad leaving. (My brother is 21) At first it wasnt so bad, He just beat me up. But now he tries to kill me. He strangles me, and tries to poison my food. I came out last year, and my brother is anti gay and thats when it got really bad. A lot of nights I end up staying at my friend Leda's house for my own saftey. I just don't know what to do.

[Agoraphobia♥]

You need to go to the police, that's really what you need to do because you need to find a way to get away from there and they could keep you somewhere safe until he can be put in jail for this, and you can be in a safe place with a caring family.

[SavingButterflies]

Hello Dre.
Police is the way to go. Is there an adult you trust who can help you?

[Total Light Storm]

Hi Dre,

I really agree, the best thing you can do is talk to the police. This shouldn't go on and you have to get out of there and be put in a safe place. If there is an adult you trust, talk to them about this and have them with you when you talk to the police.

[Honey Badger]

Dre,

As everyone else has stated, the police need to get involved. If you're not comfortable making that call, perhaps you can talk to an adult, or even a friend who can help you through it. Aunt, uncle, neighbor - is there anyone you trust?

If there isn't any adult you feel you can trust, perhaps you could contact a helpline, or a youth advocate in your area who can help you establish contact with resources that can help you get out of this situation.

[Ambiance]

Yeah, go to the police. If you tell an adult, they WILL care and they WILL help you and believe you.

[chook14]

You definitely need to get yourself out of that environment. I'd recommend talking to a school counsellor or youth worker about it...they can initiate contact with the police. I know it's daunting, but it will help you get the life that you deserve. The police will help find other accomodation for you, however if you could move in with your friend, or a relative for a while that would probably be a good idea. If there's noone like a school counsellor you can talk to, I'd recommend calling a hotline like someone else suggested. A lot of areas have hotlines for people going through depression etc. The people are really helpful, and if you explained your situation they'd be able to help you out and give you good advice about what to do. Best of luck, I really hope things look up for you soon <3

[Franky]

The people suggesting that you go to the police don't understand that it's not always that easy. I've been in an environment similar to this, but when my mother passed away, I moved in with my uncle (Now I'm not physically abused, only mentally, which I avoid by staying out of the house generally)

My advice to you, is to talk to your friends about it, cause the problem here is, if you tell the police, they can't do much, as the system is kinda... Crappy. If he has legal guardianship over you, you're most likely to end up back with him. Talk to the people you know, friends, adults, etc.

They'll offer you protection for as long as they can, offer you places to sleep, and they might bring it to the police, they seem to listen a lot better when it comes to them hearing about it from someone else.

When I had this problem, I went to the police, they ended up putting me into a temporary foster home for 4 days, then I ended up back in my fathers arms, I got beaten several times because of this. When I started telling the parental figures that came by the house, or screaming really loud when I knew someone was upstairs, and I was in a room with my father, they ended up having him escourted out of the house by 7 police, he came back a week later, I phoned the police, and we ended up getting 24/7 police protection because of him.

[Nostalgia]

The police are definitely one option but you could also tell a teacher at school or someone you trust. You need to tell someone though. I won't sugar coat it. Telling someone will be hard. I've been there done that. I had to talk to a social work and my college's child protection worker and they tried to get me to talk to the college counsellor an the police as well. Telling someone won't be easy but Telling someone will definitely help.