I was raped and and am pregnant should I forgive?

[pregnantandlost11]

I'm 21 wks pregnant. I have been with my exbf for years. We were friends and then we dated. I did oral sex for him and he pressured me to do it again. And he made me have sex with him. I was intoxicated and he had just pinned me down. I had just taken despite I said no and blamed myself. Then he apologized and we were back to hanging getting high togeher going together. He violently raped me months later. I never came to his house. But I got pregnant from it. He told me that he's been molested by his step dad all this time and he has bipolar. He found out I'm having his baby. He wants me to give him another chance. He's the only who's supportive of me keeping it. I have my own issues with drugs we both do. I don't what do you think?

[Revolution]

Let me first say I am very sorry for what has happened to you. Rape is hard enough to deal with, and I wish you luck for you and your unborn child.
This is obviously your own decision, since it is your life, your body, and your child. However, in my own opinion, I would forgive him because forgiveness helps yourself, and helps bring peace to your own soul, however, I would not date him nor would I trust him with my body or my child's body until he gets help. You had said he has problems with both drugs, a mental disorder, and the fact that he had been molested: He needs to be seeing a counselor before I would trust him with my child. He obviously has a past of violence, and I would not trust him until he can help himself.
However, like I said, it is your decision, and there is no right or wrong decision. Whatever you choose to do, I wish you luck for you and your baby!

[pregnantandlost11]

he has been actually getting help. I have a new bf and I would never dated him. More as our relationship as parents idk.

[Revolution]

I think having a relationship as parents would be a mature, great decision. I'm very glad he's getting help, for the sake of you and your child.
PM me if you ever need more help.

[Ambiance]

As great as all that therapy and change sounds for him, I don't think he sounds like a positive influence in your child's life.

[Kitty.]

Hey,

I'm sorry to hear about what happened. The fact that he was molested is not an excuse for him raping you. You need to report him so that he can get the appropriate help.
It is in your best interest to forgive him. Refusing to forgive him will only hurt you in the long run. Forgiving him will also help you deal with what has happened. Forgiving him does not mean that you have to get back together with him. I don't think you should ever get back together with him. However, it is good to have a relationship as parents so that both of you can be in the child's life. I'm glad to hear that you have a new bf. I hope that he is supportive of you.
I'm here if you need anything.
PM me anytime.

Take care,
Kitty.

[pregnantandlost11]

I know but what else can he do to show he's on the right path?

he was being raped while the acts of rape were happening I know it wasn't acceptablr.

[Le bonheur*]

Being molested is absolutely no excuse to rape you. I really think you need to tell someone about this. However, I'm glad he's getting help for his own issues for the sake of your child. Just be careful and stay safe.