I Need Some Advice... ?

[SuperBrunetteCutie4Ever]

There’s this guy in my choir class and he’s being really fucking creepy O.o Well at 1st he seemed okay but then I started to get annoyed because he always asks to use my iPod even after I’ve already said no. Then he was reading my shirt and pointed at something on it which was conveniently where my chest was and my guy friends were creeped out! So I subtly changed the topic and moved his hands from being near me O.o I try to brush it off and forget about it because I know he’s one of the special needs students but I HATE him right now! He even had the nerve to ask “Do you like being a lesbian?” and “Do you believe in God” and then he said “You have to believe in God.” The most annoying part is he asked me if I like being a lesbian today again. What sho All I wanna do is punch him in the fucking face!

[Dr.Bobby]

Brooke, your frustration is understandable! But, he's a 'Special needs' student. We give them a break b/c they're not always in good control or have good judgment, "Special needs" is a euphemism for 'Impaired'', and that prevents him from sometimes being appropriate. Don't take it personally, even if what he said IS personal, it's different.

Try nicely telling him to please stop, or that you don't like that, etc. Very often, even though he might not be able to figure this out for himself b/c he's missing the cues or doesn'lt realize the effect of his words, he will be able to listen to you. Try it, and if it doesn't work, tell the teacher.

[Gymnophoria]

I've had a slightly similar, though perhaps more extreme experience. This was an adult with "special needs" who became pretty obsessed with me. Texting and calling and stroking my cheeks when I saw him, staring at my chest and trying to kiss me. When I asked for advice on it, I was told that special needs or not, no one deserves to be treated in a way that makes them uncomfortable. If you don't like what this boy is doing, then tell him. Or speak to an adult who can explain to him that he's upsetting you by what he's doing. Really, that's all you can do, I'm not saying he isn't doing anything wrong, but he doesn't know that he's upsetting you. And if he does know, then he'll realise it's wrong and will hopefully stop.

[Dream]

The next time he tries to start a conversation with you, politely ask him to leave you alone. Tell him that you don't want to talk to him.

If he doesn't get the message, especially if you have to do it two or three times, then I'd say do something more drastic, but I'm not sure what. Obviously hitting him or causing a huge scene isn't a good idea. You could maybe move away from him; I don't know. It might be a good idea to ask the teacher to intervene and tell him to leave you alone.

I'm not good at dealing with these things because I'm a guy.

[Guile]

Flat-out tell him to leave you alone, no use "beating around the bush".