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There's nothing I want more than him dead. - November 25th 2011, 12:15 PM

I'm a 16 year old girl, living in Canada.
I have incredible parents who are the two most selfless people I have ever known, and whom are also my best friends.*
My mother is the most giving, loving woman I know.*

When she was 20, she had gotten married to a man named Tom, and had two daughters with him. They're my half-sisters (of course), and I do know them relatively well. They live with Tom's second wife (and now ex).*
I never really asked my mom about what happened with Tom, it wasn't ever a concern to me.

Then, last summer while spending some time with my grandparents, I made the comment to my grandma; "I don't understand how she let Sam and Jessie (my sisters) go, when she loves me so incredibly much."*
My grandma was shocked that I didn't know 'the story', and explained.
She told me that Tom took her family hostage and held a gun to her head, saying if she ever did, they would all be dead, including the girls.*
He abused my sisters when they were less than a year old. Threw them, put cigarettes out on their bodies.*

Since then, I have wanted nothing more in my life than to find this man.*
He moved to Ontario years and years ago, and nobody has been able to contact him, aside from when He created a Facebook account with a different name, and contacted my sisters and I, asking incredibly personal questions.*
My father doesn't know the story either, and my mom, who is normally a very rational woman who keeps her emotions in check, begged me and cried not for me to tell my dad, because he will kill him.*

I'm one of the most passive people I know, but I'm also one of the most empathetic. I believe in eye for an eye, and I can't help but thinking on a way too regular basis, about how much I want this man to suffer.

How do I deal with this?*
It's hard keeping it from my father, and I get so worked up over it. I don't know how to cope with knowing this happened to my mom, who is honestly the least deserving person ever.
   
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Re: There's nothing I want more than him dead. - November 25th 2011, 06:09 PM

First off, an eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.

This man sounds like a horrible person. He needed to be taken to the police, but this happened years ago and I'm not completely sure what can be done now, especially if you can't find him. The best thing for you to do is not try to find him, because he will probably try to hurt you too, maybe even kill you. That would also make it easy for him to find your mother and you could be putting her in danger. I understand that you're upset, but you're not thinking things through. There could be big consequences behind seeking this man out. I understand that what he did was awful, but that's years in the past. Maybe that's where it needs to stay. Your mother probably worked hard to keep you safe from this man. Don't throw that away by trying to find him and putting yourself in jeapordy.


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Re: There's nothing I want more than him dead. - November 25th 2011, 07:44 PM

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First off, an eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.

This man sounds like a horrible person. He needed to be taken to the police, but this happened years ago and I'm not completely sure what can be done now, especially if you can't find him. The best thing for you to do is not try to find him, because he will probably try to hurt you too, maybe even kill you. That would also make it easy for him to find your mother and you could be putting her in danger. I understand that you're upset, but you're not thinking things through. There could be big consequences behind seeking this man out. I understand that what he did was awful, but that's years in the past. Maybe that's where it needs to stay. Your mother probably worked hard to keep you safe from this man. Don't throw that away by trying to find him and putting yourself in jeapordy.
I completally agree there. This man doesnt deserve freedom, its not fair but honestly... Please dont go after him. Delete him from your facebook and try not to think to much about it. I understand that sounds impossible but really I think its best to just try to leave it . I hope I have been of some help to you.
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