I hurt my brother

[justme1119]

I feel like I have always hurt him abused him by saving myself and not saying anything. He's 8 and I was 9 when it started. I just at first let it happen I felt I didn't tell and I was made to believe I deserved it and therefore no one would sympathize in the first place. But when I was 11 I told my dad about how my mom's bf would beat me and eventually he got me out of there when I was 11. I don't know I sometimes worry if he's abusing him. I haven't said anything in 3 years. It's his kid so I mean would it even matter what I said? But I feel horrible to know this. I feel as bad as my mom's bf advice?

[FillingWithHope]

this isn't your fault, try not to think that way at all. you were so young there was nothing really you could have done. i would try giving him a call maybe or maybe your mom a call? just keep your hopes up.

[Iris. ♥]

You have no reason to feel guilty. You were so young. There was nothing you could have done. You were simply focused on self-preservation. There's nothing wrong with that. Have you tried to contact your brother since then? If you haven't, maybe you could try. If he hints that he's still being abused, let someone know right away. But, don't beat yourself up over the things that you wish you would have done. It's in the past. PM/VM me if you ever need someone to talk to.
Take care,
Sammi.

[justme1119]

I can't tell my mom she knows everything. Before I left he wasn't being abused at all that I knew of I always wondered if it was that he could never hurt his own like he did Mya and I. S I don't know it's I guess just that iremember when I was 8 and 7. I remember he was quite physically abusive almost in a bad way. Even though I was treated like family until I was 9.

[Chris.]

Since you have left and you dont see him that often, It will be hard to do anything for him.

You can blame yourself or feel guilty, you got out of there which you should have. Eventually your stepdad will get what he deserves - to be arrested in a jail cell.

[Chasers]

Don't blame yourself for what happened. You had no control nor do you have control today.

You can mention something to your dad and see if he will do anything, but its a shame your mom is still with him if she knows her husband was beating you like that, but like previous posters said, it was to protect you.

But are you talking to your brother?