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does this count? - February 5th 2012, 02:23 PM

me and my stepdad joke arround but hell be touching me inapropriately like hell touch me between my legs while trying to pick me up or feel me up when we r messing around hell pinch my butt and a few days ago he slappad my best friend on the butt is this sexualy abuse? and what can i do about it??????
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Re: does this count? - February 9th 2012, 12:19 PM

It could be, it also depends on if any of this is done under the clothes or just over the clothes. Friendly slaps isnt really abuse but "being felt up" against your will is.
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Re: does this count? - February 9th 2012, 12:53 PM

I don't know about abuse, but if it makes you uncomfortable it's definitely something worth telling someone over. Just remember, anything that is unwanted is not okay and should be dealt with as the need arises.
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Re: does this count? - February 9th 2012, 01:59 PM

I'm not sure if it's abuse. I think he's just trying to joke around, even though it's making you (and your friend?) uncomfortable. Talk to him and ask him to stop this behavior. If he doesn't stop, then it could be sexual harassment. However, I'm sure that if you explain how you're feeling and that you'd like him to stop, he will. Good luck.
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Re: does this count? - February 9th 2012, 02:56 PM

Maybe he isn't aware of this. Maybe he is just trying to joke around and sexual harassment is so not his intention? Well, there's only one way to find out: talk to him. If it's unintended, then he'll definitely stop. If he still continues to do all this, well, then, yep! It is sexual harassment.
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Re: does this count? - February 15th 2012, 01:22 AM

I'm not sure that this abuse but if it's something that's making you feel uncomfortable then you should definitely talk to your step-dad and ask him to stop. If it still continues I would talk to someone else and tell them what's been happening and how you feel about it.
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Re: does this count? - February 17th 2012, 07:09 AM

I'm not so sure about this... It seems like he's just joking around but it could very possibly be abuse. You should talk to him, and tell him to stop doing the things which make you uncomfortable. If he continues to do so then you might have a problem on your hands. Good luck! Carpe Diem.

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Re: does this count? - February 17th 2012, 06:13 PM

I wouldn't go as far as calling it sexual abuse, but if it makes you feel uncomfortable, you need to make it stop. Try talking to him.
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Re: does this count? - February 17th 2012, 10:57 PM

First of all, I don't see what kind of step dad would joke around about feeling you up and touching in between your legs. I don't think you can joke around about that without there being some discomfort. Unless he truely thinks it's kidding around and is somehow is so clueless, then talk to him about it.

Your step dad slapped your friend on the butt? What the... what!?
That's just.... I don't even....
Your friend and step dad aren't related in any way shape or form. I would be furious if my step dad touched my friend like that.

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Re: does this count? - February 18th 2012, 04:28 AM

I'm not sure if I would call what he's done abuse, it's kinda hard to say but I can tell you this: Your step dad should not be touching you that way. Ever. No excuses. Unless he accidentally touches your butt, this is unacceptable. Touching you between your legs... no. Just no. This is in no way acceptable in my opinion. Slapping your friend on the butt.... again. Not acceptable.

I would talk to him about it first. If you don't feel comfortable bringing it up, then I would talk to a trusted adult about what's been going on, and see what they think. I think it is a red flag that you feel the need to ask about it, because it shows that this has made you uncomfortable. There's a problem right there. Good luck, I'm here for you if you ever need someone to talk to.

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