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Exclamation I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!! - February 10th 2012, 02:08 PM

Ok my friend was raped when she was 9, BY HER MOMS BOYFRIEND!!!!!!!! she is 13 now almost 14. She just told me about 2 weeks ago... i was in shock for the next week. I dont know what to do! someone HELP PLZ!!!!!!!!!!!




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Re: I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!! - February 12th 2012, 02:25 PM

Talk it out with her. Support her when it bothers her, let her know you're there for her in any way possible, anytime she needs to talk, etc. Also since it hasnt been THAT long, has she ever gone to the police about it and pressed charges. If he did it to her, who knows if he's done it or will do it to others, he should be punished for what he did.
   
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Re: I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!! - February 12th 2012, 07:54 PM

Amber is right, you just need to reassure her that you'll be there for her when she needs a friend or a shoulder to cry on. Also if she hasn't already pressed charges, she still can. Talk to her about it and if she hasn't discuss the idea of it with her, but don't push it, if she doesn't want to, she doesn't have to, it's her choice. But I think it would be a good idea if she did at least report him if she hasn't already. But the absolute most important thing, is to just be there for her.


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Re: I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!! - February 12th 2012, 08:11 PM

I agree. I think the best thing you can do for your friend is to talk with her, listen, and just be there for her as much as you can be. If she has not yet pressed charges and wants to, it is definitely not too late. I wouldn't push the idea, but rather explore the possibility of it with her. I hope that you and your friend are able to get through this difficult time together.
   
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Re: I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!! - February 13th 2012, 12:47 AM

First of all, be there for her. I had a friend who was raped by her step dad (who is the father of her brother and sister) when she was 8 (she's 16 almost 17). I know how that shock feels. Be there for her, and maybe she needs to get some therapy done if it still traumatizes her (which it probably does).


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Re: I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!! - February 13th 2012, 04:25 AM

thx guys the thing is she isnt the kind of person to express stuff like that she says she is fine i dont belive that... she says that she would of told her mom that she was raped but her mom would of said she didn't believe her and that she was lying...




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Re: I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!! - February 18th 2012, 07:09 AM

It sounds like your friend is trying to be stronger then she really feels because it's still such a sensitive topic for her. In that case, don't push the topic. Be there to listen and let her know that if she ever wants to talk to you about it, you're always right there for her. Sometimes just knowing that can be comforting. It can also be harder on her not having her mom believe her. She can then start questioning her own reality and thinking that it didn't really happen. Be sure that when you talk to her about it, you believe her. This might be able to give her more strength in the long run to help her tell someone in the future. I think it's so sweet that you posted this to learn mow to help your friend. You sound like a good friend. Good luck to both you and your friend. Just be there for her, sometimes that's all you can do. If you ever want to talk, feel free to PM me.

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Re: I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!! - February 18th 2012, 09:18 PM

You need to talk to her and tell her that she's got to contact the police and also she's gotta go to a counselor to help her with the memories that might haunt her from that time... But don't just forget about it.. This is a very very important subject that cannot be avoided or ignored.. So PLEASE talk to her or to an adult who can take some action.
   
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