5 years ago he pressured me into doing stuff with him. Nasty stuff. I was only 8 or 9. I was young and confused. But after he got caught, we didnt talk for 5 years.
The other day (he's 17 or 18 now) After soccer practice, I sat there and waited for my mom. She was late like always. But he passed by in his car and asked if I wanted a ride... I freaked out alittle.... I kindly said no, and he drove off fast. Was he just trying to be nice? Or wanted something else? Its hard to forget the stuff he did to me.
I really doubt that he changed. I would advise you to stay far away from him. Furthermore, I'd probably inform your parents that he drove by and asked if you wanted a ride. I don't know if it was a mere coincidence that he simply "happened" to be driving by just as you were finishing up soccer practice. You can never be too careful when it comes to a scumbag like him, so I'd be extra cautious. Remember, let somebody know about what happened.
First impressions last. Start behind the eight ball and you'll never get in front.
No he wasn't being kind he just wanted to use you just like he did when you was little. It's good that you said no. If you went in that car with him who knows what he might do to you he could rape, abuse you. It's best to stay away from him make sure your with everyone else in a public place so your not alone. People like that never change. when you was 8+9 how old was he when he false you to do stuff with him?
Maria, there's no way of determining what's going on inside someone else's head, what motivates them or what they're thinking or feeling. Rather, in your case, you were assaulted by this guy, so the answer here..regardless of all of the above..is you stay away. That's just common sense.
It's not uncommon to have a strong reaction to trauma, you should be talking with someone about this.
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As everyone has said STAY away from him!! and no-one will blame you for freaking out its a natural reaction, a human reaction.
Just stay away from him an don't communicate with him via any means.
stay safe. xx
Yeah he can't be a paedophile if he was 12 but it doesn't mean you can get in the car with someone you don't even know well or don't know at all. Always say no to strangers when they offer you a free ride keep safe and look after yourself.
You made the right decision, OP. It doesn't matter how old he was at the time, whether he was 12 or 18, because your first priority in life should be your well-being rather than thinking about whether you should or should not look past what someone else did to you at an earlier stage in life. Never lose sight of that and you should be fine.
You made the right decision by not getting in the car with him. You're clearly uncomfortable because of what he did in the past and you should listen to that uneasiness. Although he was only 12, what he did was wrong and you shouldn't have to put up with seeing him again.
With that said, I feel like this thread has recieved sufficient replies and there's nothing left to post; therefore, I'm going to close the thread. Feel free to PM me if you'd like it reopened or you can simply make another thread if you'd like other advice.