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Im mad - April 27th 2012, 02:28 AM

IM MAD AND I DONT KNOW WHY AM I HAVEING A EPISODE I DONT KNOW.

I FEEL EVERY ONE HATES ME HERE I POSTED TWO THREADS NO REPLYS NO ONE CARES HOW I FEEEL IM JUST MAD AT LIFE THAT I LOST EVEYR THING JOB AND COLLEGE BEC I GOT SUSPENDED AND THEN I CANT EVEN GET ACCEPTED ON HERE FOR VOLUNTEER SOOBB. I WISH MY THERAPIST LOVED ME AND CARED ABOUT ME SHE DOESNT RESPOND TO MY EMAILS SHES SERIOUSLY PISSSIING MEEEEEEEEE OFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF I MISS SM YOLD THERAPIST EVEN THOUGH SHE HURT ME GOSHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH WHY CANT I FIND A THERAPIST THAT WILL CALL ME AND RESPOND TO MY EMAILS WHY IS IT SOO HARDD. I JUST WANT TO O SMASH AND BREAK SOEMHTING IM CCRYINGGGGGGGGGGG
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Re: Im mad - April 27th 2012, 02:44 AM

Lauri,

go for a run and exhaust yourself. It will help calm you down so that you can put your anger in perspective.

People may not always know how to respond to your posts. That doesn't mean they don't care about you, it just means they don't know what to say - everybody here is, after all, human.
With college and your work, once you get back in control of what's going on with the rest of your life, you'll be able to go back to college and then go back to work. Suspension is temporary, it doesn't last forever. You will get these things back, just not right now.

Therapists choose which e-mails they respond to. I found with my psychologist, if I sent her an e-mail about certain things, she wouldn't respond - however if I called her on the telephone, she would always be as helpful as she could. It is easier for therapists to respond to us when they can gauge our reactions. If they are not aware of how we're reacting to what they've said - for example if we read an e-mail they send and it upsets us - then they can't help us deal with those emotions.

When you come back from running (or kicking a punching bag, or doing 100 press ups, whatever, just get some of that angry energy out of your system), post again - but turn off caps lock. People are also more likely to respond IF YOU'RE NOT SHOUTING AT THEM.

It isn't nice to feel yelled at, even online. You have to think of this when you're posting. Sure, you're not feeling good, but if how you say something makes other people not feel good, then they're not going to be able to help you.
   
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Re: Im mad - April 27th 2012, 04:35 AM

Hey Lauri,

Not every single thread will get answered immediately. As Jess pointed out, the people on TeenHelp have many things in their life, from work, friends, and their own personal issues, and can't always look for every unanswered thread or see that everybody gets the advice they need. We're human. That doesn't mean we hate you, it just means that we have lots of things to do, lots of people to answer. I, for one, haven't been on for days, so obviously it would have impossible for me to reply unless I could somehow reply with my mind.

As much as we are human, we understand you are human too. Humans make mistakes. But if you want to get on staff, you need to make sure those mistakes are not insulting fellow users on this website. As much as you may be angry, it does not show the staff that you are in a right place of mind when you go off on other users. It's okay to have problems, I for one have lots of problems myself. You just can't be insulting other people and cussing out other people.

I think it'd be a really good idea for you to rant on here via the blogs as a way to be able to get out your anger. It's a great place to express yourself. You can find them at right here, just click "My blog" on the side and you'll be able to make your blog. I use my blog to rant about things going on, and it's a great way to express yourself and be able to get anger off your chest without directing it to our forum users.

Good luck! I'm here if you need anything.


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Re: Im mad - April 27th 2012, 08:05 AM

Regardless of how much you want to get on staff, it's not going to happen with your online behaviour. Those who become staff are supposed to be mature, not insulting, not come off as offensive or hard to deal with, handle not getting responses and be stable. I'm going to be blunt, you show none of those. There are plenty of reasons why people don't respond to your threads as much as you'd like, I don't know what all of them are but some probably are your reputation of being disagreeable and throwing online temper tantrums. In general, people don't like being yelled at and common responses are to back away, retaliate, or be indifferent. Personally, I'm indifferent, although many others on this site probably would back away.

People also have their own lives and their own problems to sort out first before helping anyone else. Your therapist may not be responding to your e-mails for the same reason that she's busy or she may want you to show a more polite and less hostile etiquette.

If you're angry, then let it out. When I'm angry at home, I use my punching bag.


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Re: Im mad - April 27th 2012, 02:27 PM

I agree with all of the above posts.
I'm sorry you are having a hard time, but you need to know that you not getting staff doesn't mean you are a horrible person, it just means that you are not ready to take on those responsibilities.
I would suggest taking a run? Thinking about things more?
I'm sure your therapist doesnt hate you, they are busy people as are we and cannot find every single unread post. But TeenHelp wants to help you, and so does your therapist!
You could always talk to your therapist about feeling ignored, but I would suggest doing so in a calm way, that would go farther.

Again, I'm sorry you are feeling this way! I hope you are able to cool down!

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Re: Im mad - April 27th 2012, 06:44 PM

Thanks all I read them alll. PLease dont be afraid of me Im really nice and yes teenhelp is STUPID BULL SHITTT I was a live help volunteer like that I got it so quickly and now I cant get any postions quickly. ASND ITS BULL SHIT THAT SINCE I LEFT FOR A LITTLE WHILE I LOST MY POSTION.


IM NOT YELLING I JUST WANT TO BE HEARDDD. ITS GOING TO BE WAR TOMOORROW WITH MY THERAPIST IF YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW IT GOES I CAN LET YOU KNOW. Well i didnt run but I went shopping and went to sleep instead of get angry and took my pill BECAUSE IM SO FUKIN CRAZY I GUESS BUT IM STILL MAD AND READY FOR TOMMORWW TO CUSS AND YELL AT HER FOR THE MEAN THINGS SHE DID TO ME AND FOR NOT CARRING.



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Re: Im mad - April 27th 2012, 09:21 PM

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Thanks all I read them alll. PLease dont be afraid of me Im really nice and yes teenhelp is STUPID BULL SHITTT I was a live help volunteer like that I got it so quickly and now I cant get any postions quickly. ASND ITS BULL SHIT THAT SINCE I LEFT FOR A LITTLE WHILE I LOST MY POSTION.
It's not bull shit you lost your position when you left for a simple reason that staff members are volunteers, meaning there is no contract that will ensure you keep your position despite being inactive for some time. I don't know how your online behaviour was when you were a live help volunteer but I would guess that it is far different from what it is now. I feel like I'm a broken record saying your current online behaviour is why you're not getting accepted onto staff when there are openings.


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IM NOT YELLING I JUST WANT TO BE HEARDDD. ITS GOING TO BE WAR TOMOORROW WITH MY THERAPIST IF YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW IT GOES I CAN LET YOU KNOW. Well i didnt run but I went shopping and went to sleep instead of get angry and took my pill BECAUSE IM SO FUKIN CRAZY I GUESS BUT IM STILL MAD AND READY FOR TOMMORWW TO CUSS AND YELL AT HER FOR THE MEAN THINGS SHE DID TO ME AND FOR NOT CARRING.
If you're willing to post how it goes, then I'm willing to read it. As some food for thought, yelling at your therapist for her actions is not going to get you the unconditional care you desire. If you want her to show more caring, then you have to be more caring. I see nothing wrong with venting, after all that's partially what a therapist is for. Try to think how your behaviour would be viewed by a random person who doesn't know you because the goal of therapy is to change your behaviour so it is more compatible with society.


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Re: Im mad - April 27th 2012, 11:05 PM

Yeah i guess it was diffrent I wonder if the meds are making me worse then better. But I know there keeping me from getting manic at least. Ill tell you how it goes.
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Re: Im mad - April 27th 2012, 11:46 PM

This is really just repeating what Nick said, but really, yelling at your therapist will make things worse. Why don't you calmly discuss things with her, letting her know that you want to be able to get advice through email, and negotiate an understanding about that?


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Re: Im mad - April 28th 2012, 03:17 AM

I have talked to her about it she said put respond on it next time which I did put respond on it and she didnt respond im sick of this. Maybe Ill try
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Re: Im mad - April 28th 2012, 04:10 AM

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II WISH MY THERAPIST LOVED ME AND CARED ABOUT ME SHE DOESNT RESPOND TO MY EMAILS SHES SERIOUSLY PISSSIING MEEEEEEEEE OFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF
I just wanted to say that therapists tend to be very busy with other clients and paperwork along with their own lives they need to address. So I'm sure that she does actually care about you, otherwise she would refer you to another specialist whom she thought would fit you better.
This also goes along with not getting replies on threads. You can't always get immediate responses because everybody has their own lives that they need to take care of and can't always be around to help out. You just need to be patient and not consider the worst possible thing.

I also agree that you should try writing in your blog on here to rant. I do it all the time


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