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Question Symptons, what do you think I have? Possible Abuse - May 1st 2012, 12:31 AM

Well i've been noticing that my "behavior" hasnt been that normal, like if my parents ask me a question or something or if my mom is yelling and me or my brother/sibling i'll get so stressed out and irritated that I have to beg her please stop. I have been self harming, and I think I may have BPD because all of the symptons fit in. Other people have told me that what my parents do to me is abusive, so I dont know.. ( may of read my post) but my dad sometimes ohysically hits me, hecalls me fat, make me go on a scale and weigh myself and if my weight seems to high to him he'll freakin take away all of my sugar and chip capability and will freakin tell straight up in my face, sometimes scream that im to "big". He wont let me have anything that is "unhealthy" so basiclly im given like meat, potatoes, vegtables all that crap for breakfest,dinner, and lunch.. and I mean absolutely nothing "unhealthy". If I "disobey" him he'll grab me and throw me on my couch or bed, pin me down, and then yell straight at my face. But he isnt always like this though, he is usually normal until I "disobey" him. I think the way he treats me has resolved into anxiety disorders and social things. CPS has already been called by my school but they didnt do anything so thats not a solution.
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Re: Symptons, what do you think I have? Possible Abuse - May 1st 2012, 08:52 AM

Ok so, your parents controlling your diet isn't really a big thing, but the other stuff is.
They shouldn't be forcing you stand on a scales or pinning you down and screaming at you, at any rate. I think as far as the food goes, just accept the situation. Nothing wrong with eating healthy.

But the other stuff - if CPS won't help, are there other people you can go to? Could you possibly get intervention from a social worker? Are there other places you could stay? Do your parents actually realise that what they're doing is hurting you and impacting your ability to function? You never know, your parents - your Dad in particular - may not have any idea of how much this stuff is upsetting you. Is it possible to talk to your parents at all? Or write them a letter explaining that their behaviour isn't helping you, but actually making you feel worse?

Getting stressed in pressured situations is fairly normal - being questioned or yelled at results in an amount of stress for everyone, although the amount differs with the context and the person's own experiences and temperament. If you're being yelled at and you feel stressed, don't freak out about it - it's a normal reaction. Just remember that you have control over your physiological responses - you can do things like concentrate on breathing slowly and evenly, and it will calm you down and make you feel less stressed. It's hard but it works.

With the self-harm - please tell somebody in real life about this and seek assistance to stop. Self-harm is a huge issue and it tends to get out of control quickly, which self-harmers often do not realise until it's too late. It is a valid coping mechanism, but there are many healthier coping mechanisms, and seeing someone to get help in real life will give you access to these, as well as the ability to practise using other methods in a controlled, safe environment. Also in the SH forum there is an "alternatives" thread with a long list of things you can do instead of SH. Some of them may not work for you, but some will, so give it a read and give things a shot.

BPD is a personality disorder, personality disorders are not generally diagnosed until between the ages of 18 and 25 as the personality has not finished developing - it's fairly fluid and likely to change until our brain structure is complete. Also, to be diagnosed with a personality disorder, you must see a mental health professional such as a psychiatrist, others simply do not have the experience to make an accurate diagnosis. Also, online quizzes, symptom lists, and so forth, are not a basis for diagnosis or even assumption. If you're worried about something, always, ALWAYS see a doctor, and get referred to somebody who specialises in that field. It's just logical, you think you have a skin problem so you see a dermatologist, you think you have a mental health problem so you see a psychiatrist.
   
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Re: Symptons, what do you think I have? Possible Abuse - May 2nd 2012, 05:54 PM

Hey India, it seems you're going through an incredibly tough time. As Jess expressed above, PDs can't be diagnosed until you're 18 due to the personality not being fully formed until that time, so a diagnosis of BPD by a psychologist or other mental health professional wouldn't be likely until you reach that age.

However, you're clearly struggling in very difficult circumstances, and I'd like to help you. What you describe certainly sounds abusive, and isn't a situation you should be forced to tolerate, or live in.

Please PM me, i have experience and can potentially give you some helpful advice and support.

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Re: Symptons, what do you think I have? Possible Abuse - May 3rd 2012, 02:22 AM

Okay, one thing that I have to say here is, to assume its BPD based on a list of symptoms (and some of the symptoms of BPD are broad enough to be part of other disorders) is probably not the best thing to do.

Let's put it this way, if you feel your parents are "abusing" you (I can't say since I don't know the situation well enough, the food thing sounds like a normal parent wanting their kid to eat good food, but it could be worse than it looks in text), and/or if you've been abused in the past (or anything else that could be "traumatic"), then that makes PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) another possibility. BPD and Depression have common symptoms too, so you could also have Depression. Or, you could be mentally healthy, but struggling.

My point is, due to so many variables, this is something you'll need to see a mental health professional to settle. Mental illnesses, especially things like Personality Disorders and Mood Disorders, need to be diagnosed by a mental health professional. I mean, who better to analyze and make a deduction from symptoms than somebody who does it as a living, right?

Just, don't count your chickens before they hatch. Basically, don't assume you probably have BPD, when the symptoms [that you mentioned, at least] are so broad they could be lumped into different diagnostic categories.


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Re: Symptons, what do you think I have? Possible Abuse - May 3rd 2012, 12:39 PM

Whilst I can also see and agree with your opinions on this issue, I think she's just pretty lost atm, Julz, and needs some support.

I understand your protectiveness over MH diagnoses, though



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Okay, one thing that I have to say here is, to assume its BPD based on a list of symptoms (and some of the symptoms of BPD are broad enough to be part of other disorders) is probably not the best thing to do.

Let's put it this way, if you feel your parents are "abusing" you (I can't say since I don't know the situation well enough, the food thing sounds like a normal parent wanting their kid to eat good food, but it could be worse than it looks in text), and/or if you've been abused in the past (or anything else that could be "traumatic"), then that makes PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) another possibility. BPD and Depression have common symptoms too, so you could also have Depression. Or, you could be mentally healthy, but struggling.

My point is, due to so many variables, this is something you'll need to see a mental health professional to settle. Mental illnesses, especially things like Personality Disorders and Mood Disorders, need to be diagnosed by a mental health professional. I mean, who better to analyze and make a deduction from symptoms than somebody who does it as a living, right?

Just, don't count your chickens before they hatch. Basically, don't assume you probably have BPD, when the symptoms [that you mentioned, at least] are so broad they could be lumped into different diagnostic categories.


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Re: Symptons, what do you think I have? Possible Abuse - May 3rd 2012, 02:06 PM

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Whilst I can also see and agree with your opinions on this issue, I think she's just pretty lost atm, Julz, and needs some support.

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Uhh, it's not even a "protectiveness over diagnoses". I was actually stating that there are many variables that could make it a different issue. How is that being "protective" over anything?


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Re: Symptons, what do you think I have? Possible Abuse - May 3rd 2012, 04:02 PM

No, I understand that! Just with what you've been through to get proper diagnoses yourself, it's just an impression I got that you want to make clear distinctions between things which may or not be psychological disorders. But your general advice was very balanced

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Uhh, it's not even a "protectiveness over diagnoses". I was actually stating that there are many variables that could make it a different issue. How is that being "protective" over anything?


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