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Question Moving out? - June 10th 2012, 09:24 PM

So I'm moving out of my nan's on the 22nd June and I'm a little worried about how I will cope on my own. For those of you who don't know me, I have depression, I self harm and I struggle with suicidal thoughts. I think one of the biggest things I will struggle with is battling against my urge to withdraw from the world and shut off when I should be reaching out. I'm sure many of you have been there, I was just wondering if you have any tips on what I can do when things get tough?


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Re: Moving out? - June 10th 2012, 09:41 PM

One of the main things you can do is try to distract yourself when things get tough. When ever you get the urge to gut yourself, try to keep your hands distract by doing something that keeps your hands busy, like knitting playing an instrument or playing a sport. As for the depression and suicidal thoughts, whenever you get those, talk to someone to get your mind off of the depressing and suicidal thoughts.




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Re: Moving out? - June 11th 2012, 03:09 AM

Hey, maybe it would be worth organising to have friends and family come and visit you (or you visit them) in the first month or so of living in the new place? Especially if you're moving into independent accomodation where it's just you.

When I first moved out of home, I made sure I visited my family at least once a week, and hung out with friends daily. I was at uni at the time, so hanging out with friends was freely available as part of my routine, which really helped. Also at first I had no washing machine, so I needed to visit my Mum's in order to create clean clothes for myself. It was a hassle at the time, but looking back it was instrumental in preventing me from slipping in to my own little (dangerous) world.

As for the depression and suicidal thoughts, are you receiving any help for that at the moment? If you are, make use of every resource available to you during the transition period where you're adjusting to things. If you're not receiving some kind of assistance at the moment, then now is probably the time to get some. =]

But yeah, my main advice is to have pre-arranged visits from people you trust (close friends etc) until you feel stable in your new environment, and it might be worth continuing those visits once you're stable, just in case something goes pear shaped.
   
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Re: Moving out? - June 11th 2012, 10:35 PM

Hi lovely,

I think it's brill that you're taking that step and moving out and I think in the long run, you will really benefit from it. I know that right now it seems scary and is probably making you feel a bit on edge but I think that is normal. I know you know I might be moving out and I can kind of relate to how you are feeling.

I think the above users have suggested some pretty good things. Just remember to distract yourself when you feel bad. If you start to feel like you want to isloate yourself, do something to stop yourself from doing so like meeting a friend or going out for a walk or something. I know it takes motivation but you can do it if you set your mind too it.

I am really proud of you for taking this step, I think it's a great move and I honestly think it's going to help you in the long run. At the begining it might be hard but you'll get there and remember that you're not alone. When you do move out, if you need anyone, as a community we are always here but remember if you ever need me I'm here too. Just give me a ring or a text and I will try and support you as much as I can.

You can do this, keep fighting lovely.
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