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Post Tips on how to get over a situation that is still bugging you? - October 24th 2012, 05:53 AM

I was walking my dog today outside my apartment building when a lady not much older than me came out. most of the time me and my neighbors never talk but this time she was nice and said "cute dog". I said "thanks". then she said in a lecturing voice "remember to pick up its poop". slightly annoyed I said "I do". and then she said "good girl" and walked away.

I AWLWAYS pick up after my dog, and i dont have to be reminded to do it like i am a two year old. I know i should just forget about the past, but it is really bugging me. how would she like it if i went up to her and her infant daughter and said "remember to change her diapers. good girl"?

I get worked up about past things alot and i want some tips to help me get over it. i know you guys just want to tell me that this is stupid and i need to move on, but i just cant. any tips?


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Re: Tips on how to get over a situation that is still bugging you? - October 24th 2012, 06:02 AM

Hey,

First of all, I don't think it's stupid nor do I think your emotions about what happened are stupid on any level. This comment would have annoyed me also because it can be taken in a slightly degrading way. So no worries there. Honestly, with something like this, and with most things that can get under our skin and bother us, the main thing that really fixes them is time. And in this case, for example, you can't really talk to her about it. I mean if you really wanted to, you could. But it doesn't really need to be talked about.

So I would suggest just giving it some time and allowing things to eventually blow over. That's how you can get over most things that bother you, but it can depend on the situation. In some cases, more direct measures sometimes need to be taken. But in this one, I would give it some time and move on. I don't really think she was meaning it in a degrading way, but I so understand how it could have came off that way. Give it a few days and your feelings about it should improve.

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Re: Tips on how to get over a situation that is still bugging you? - October 24th 2012, 07:05 AM

For situations like these, I find it's helpful to try and imagine why the other person said what they did. Sure, she was annoying, but perhaps there's a reason why she said such an unusual thing. Maybe she's had problems with people not picking up after their dogs in the past, and it's been a huge pet peeve for her. Maybe she accidentally stepped in dog poop a few days ago, so she's hyper-vigilant at the moment and reminding EVERYONE (not just you!) to pick up after their dogs. Once you try to put yourself in another person's shoes, it's easier to let go of your frustration and forgive them for saying silly things. =P






   
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