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Cullen May 6th 2014 08:05 PM

Going to the GP.
 
I've decided that I finally need to go to the GP about my mental health, as it is getting more and more in the way of my life now. But when I get there, what do I say? Do I ask them to refer me straight to a therapist/psychiatrist? How do I start? I just registered with a new surgery since I moved recently, so I don't know any of the doctors there. I hope they take me seriously. I don't want to tell them about my eating and S/H problems, though I know they need to know that. I'm embarrassed.

Help? Any one else been through this?

Thereishope May 6th 2014 09:15 PM

Re: Going to the GP.
 
I would just tell them how you've been feeling regularly and they'll refer you to who they feel you should talk too. That's what I did when I went through this.

Kate* May 6th 2014 09:36 PM

Re: Going to the GP.
 
As someone who has also done this, I know how scary it is, but it's incredibly brave of you to take this step. If it helps you can write down what you want to say, or make a list of what you need to tell them so you don't leave anything out. I understand being embarrassed about some of these things, but the doctor will not judge you and they will take you seriously. You won't be the first person to come to them with something like this and they will know what to do to help. What's important is that you are reaching out for the help that you know you need. Good luck :)

Spoons May 7th 2014 12:13 AM

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I think they should take you seriously regardless. That is their job and that is what they are trained to do. They've probably seen something similar to what you are going through before, and even if they haven't encountered it yet, they entered their profession because they want to help people, and they do that by taking you seriously! Don't be embarrassed. I know how hard it is, but they aren't there to judge you and it's better to talk to them and get help. They'll keep everything confidential.

I think you can always start off by letting them know that you are visiting them because you would like a referral to a therapist or psychiatrist. They will ask what is going on, and I really like Kate's idea of making a list so you don't forget to tell them anything. The main points that you would like to make are the fact that you have issues with eating and self harm. Describe to them a little bit what else you are going through with your mental health and what you have been feeling lately. They should be able to refer you without a problem!

sunflower May 7th 2014 01:27 AM

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It is their duty to care for you and take you seriously.

When I asked my doctor, she gave me the place and the person she recommends and told me that I would get through this, and to let her know if I preferred to try someone else.

You don't have to tell them about the self harm and eating (I didn't) if you are really nervous, but it would help them to send you to someone who is skilled in working with people who have those problems.

Philomath May 7th 2014 02:23 AM

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Hi,

I agree with what everyone else has mentioned here.
i have never done this myself however I believe if I were to, I would definitely make a list so that I wouldn't get off track with what I want to talk about. I know this is scary to do but I believe you can do this and that you will be listened to.
I hope all goes well. :) You can PM or VM me if you would like to talk.

Cullen May 7th 2014 04:34 PM

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Thanks everyone... I'm worried that they will say they won't refer me and just palm me off with meds. I don't want meds if I can help it, I just want to knowwhy I feel the way I do.

Kate* May 7th 2014 08:38 PM

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If you're worried about that, then I would suggest being up front about it and/or asking for a referral directly just in case they try to do that. I know when I went to mine, I barely got out that I didn't want medication right away and she already had the prescription half written! Also remember that they work for you and it's your choice, so even if they prescribe you something, you don't have to take it.

Peter Pan May 8th 2014 12:19 PM

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It is a brave thing you are doing. Maybe writing down what you want to say before hand might help in case you get lost or you can hand it to them for them to read. Most GPs are understanding so I would not worry to much about it because most of them are really nice.

Cullen May 8th 2014 06:26 PM

Re: Going to the GP.
 
I went to the GP today, and all she did was ask me what was wrong, and give me a number that I have to call to refer myself to a psychology service. I don't know what I was expecting to happen and I don't know if this is the result I wanted. My head is messed up right now.

Cullen May 9th 2014 08:25 PM

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I just googled the number of the service the doctor gave me, and its for depression and anxiety... I'm not depressed. I know I'm not depressed.http://www.iapt.nhs.uk/iapt/ Thats the website. What the hell???

Kate* May 9th 2014 08:38 PM

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Maybe it's kind of a standard place that they refer people? or did you mention having anxiety? A lot of the time people will have both depression and anxiety together so services tend to treat both, that doesn't mean that you have to have both to go there.

Cullen May 9th 2014 08:43 PM

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No I don't have anxiety. On the NHS website it says that the gp will refer you to a psych service, but she said that I have to essentially self-refer myself to this. It's taken me fucking years to get as far as going to a gp about it and they don't do anything.

Victoria ♥ May 9th 2014 09:17 PM

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Hey lovely,

I'm sorry you didn't get better support from your GP. Have they asked you to book a follow up appointment?
I know how difficult it can be to go and talk to your Dr about a mental health problem, especially when it's the first time. I'm also from the UK and IAPT has been mentioned by my GP before but i've never really understood what it is. Would you be able to go back and book an appointment with a different Dr? Or how would you feel about doing the self referral?

When you get past the GP stage i'm sure you'll find that people are a lot more supportive and helpful. People do want to help you and it sounds like you've been through a difficult time over the past few years. Don't let this appointment stop you from reaching out for the help you deserve. I'm always here if you want a chat.

Look after yourself, :hug:
Victoria

Cullen May 10th 2014 08:21 PM

Re: Going to the GP.
 
at the point now of checking out of life. Got nothing left in me to try with.

blumemusik♫ May 11th 2014 03:06 PM

Re: Going to the GP.
 
Hi! :) I had a similar issue when I went to the GP myself. She gave me a number to phone and that was that. It made me feel like I hadn't been taken seriously or that she didn't care or whatever.
I never phoned the number (I hate speaking on the phone) and because "nothing was wrong with me" according to her, I carried on battling through like I had before. I still am.
HOWEVER - referrals are incredibly difficult to get. And because she gave you that number, she must think you could benefit from it. Why not phone them? Have an appointment with them, and if they feel you're not depressed or that their services aren't right for you, they should point you in the direction of where to go next.
HUGE congrats for reaching out :) It's not suddenly going to become easy and you're not suddenly going to feel better, but you're well on the road now :)
x

blumemusik♫ May 11th 2014 03:07 PM

Re: Going to the GP.
 
Hi! :) I had a similar issue when I went to the GP myself. She gave me a number to phone and that was that. It made me feel like I hadn't been taken seriously or that she didn't care or whatever.
I never phoned the number (I hate speaking on the phone) and because "nothing was wrong with me" according to her, I carried on battling through like I had before. I still am.
HOWEVER - referrals are incredibly difficult to get. And because she gave you that number, she must think you could benefit from it. Why not phone them? Have an appointment with them, and if they feel you're not depressed or that their services aren't right for you, they should point you in the direction of where to go next.
HUGE congrats for reaching out :) It's not suddenly going to become easy and you're not suddenly going to feel better, but you're well on the road now :)
x

Cullen May 13th 2014 06:36 PM

Re: Going to the GP.
 
I had a "phone appointment" with them today and they just seemed to focus on the depression and anxiety parts too. I said that I don't always feel down, but all their questions were about being depressed and stuff. From what I understand they want me to do cbt? I don't understand what that is. I want someone to actually listen to what I'm saying and tell me what's wrong with me. It feels like i have to do something really drastic to be noticed.

JennaKoehler May 13th 2014 07:09 PM

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So, I'm not so sure how to start this, but I have major anxiety. I have anxiety attacks a lot, over school and stuff, and sometimes I have them at school. No one in my family really cares... I just need to talk about it. Hopefully it's ok.. But yeah if anyone read this thank you for listening.. Can anyone give me advice on how to calm myself down from my anxiety attacks? Thanks☺️

Cullen May 13th 2014 07:58 PM

Re: Going to the GP.
 
Steal my thread, why don't you.


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