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group therapy... - September 9th 2014, 10:33 PM

so basically today i started group therapy and its like so weird.... because everyone in the group are like at different points of the group therapy because not everyone joined the group at like exactly the same time so today it was like oh we're doing this.... and this one guy whos been there for like some time saw it as a chance to like take over the whole session... i was like finding it hard to speak... and when i tried i found myself like struggling for words etc...and i felt like a few people were laughing at me.... i dont know if im like completely over-reacting... im also the youngest there..... like literally everyone is in thier 40's and then theres me......
basically i guess what im like asking is how do i make the most of the group therapy..... the idea of it is like really weird and i dont quite like get how its meant to help... ive literally been told that like all they can offer me is just like this group therapy.......



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Re: group therapy... - September 9th 2014, 11:13 PM

Hi there!

In my experience, I have found group therapy very helpful. I've been in two groups, one in which we were nearly all the same age, and one in which I was the youngest.

The point of group therapy is for you to see that you have peers going through the same thing; you're not alone. You're also able to get support from people too. Group is neat because everyone has their own two cents of advice to give you. Therapy is all about voicing your feelings, so even if you find it hard, try to talk a little each session. It may help if you write things down so you know what you want to talk about. If you feel like you aren't given the chance to speak, be sure to let the therapist know about this so you can be given more opportunities in the future. You mentioned that you feel like one member was laughing at you. Try not to let the people in group get to you either. They're struggling to some degree as well and inappropriate reactions could be symptomatic of their issues.

It'll seem odd at first because you are newer to this but once you get used to the concept, I'm sure you'll do great!


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Re: group therapy... - September 9th 2014, 11:43 PM

Hey,

I think you should give it a chance. As long as everyone works together and is on the same page, it should work out fine. The point of group therapy is to get support from peers who may be going through similar issues as you, and give some support in return if you think you can help.

I agree that maybe you should try to talk a little bit at a time. Even if it isn't totally centered around yourself, it can be good practice to start talking if you try and give input on other people's problems, and in turn it may make you feel more confident about what is going on in your own lives.

It can be scary, but you should at least try to say how you are feeling. Start with the smaller things and build up, if you think it may help to do that, since you wouldn't be at the hugest issue at once.

If you continue to get laughed at or you don't get a turn to speak, you can always pull the person facilitating the discussion aside at the beginning or end of the session and express your concerns. I'm sure they'll be willing to help you out.

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Re: group therapy... - September 9th 2014, 11:50 PM

I've had group therapy before and although we'd all started at the same time, it was very difficult to really speak or do anything. At one point when the nurse was talking and discussing something related to depression, I'd moved in a certain way and she thought it was a reaction to what she was talking about, singling me out in front of the entire group and it was a seriously uncomfortable thing, not to mention that like your group, everyone was pretty much far older than I was. The majority were in their 40's and 50's.

There are some things you could consider doing. Firstly, know that group therapy is a way of expressing yourself and as Cassie has said, to show that you're not the only one who's going through similar issues to yourself and that people of all ages suffer the same thing. It can be seriously intimidating when in a room filled with older people but the chances are at least one other person in that room who's older than you, is going to feel as equally as anxious and uncomfortable as you are. Talking in front of a group of people, while it has its benefits, it can also have its problems. Not everyone has the ability to discuss themselves in front of other people and the rest of the group will also know this because they too have most likely experienced the exact same thing. Feeling like one person was laughing at you, it may have felt that way but they may actually have been sympathising with you or not actually thinking anything at all, just that you were extremely self-conscious about how you were being perceived by other people at that moment in time.

If you genuinely feel like being in your current group isn't going to be beneficial, explain to your group organiser that being in a group where everyone starts fresh and isn't yet acquainted with one another may help you to feel far more at ease because you'll each be at the same level and from there, you'll each be able to grow comfortable with one another as a group and thus, may help you to feel like the sessions are benefiting you in some way.


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Re: group therapy... - September 10th 2014, 12:40 PM

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I have never been in group therapy but I am glad that those who have were able and wlling to respond to your questions very thoroughly based on their own experiences.
Definitely talk to the therapist that is running the group if you have any questions or concerns. If after some time in this group you believe you are not getting anywhere, you can ask if there are any other groups available with people closer in age to you or if their are groups for your specific issue (if this is a group of people with different problems instead of a group specifically for what you are coping with).
I hope this helps and that the group goes well for you.
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Re: group therapy... - September 10th 2014, 07:24 PM

Im thinking of like talking to me Dr tomorrow and like saying to me Dr that im not sure if im in the right group.



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Re: group therapy... - September 10th 2014, 10:51 PM

That is another idea, Lyd! They may or may not (it depends on the doctor) want you to stick it out for a few sessions just to be sure, but it's always good to let them know what's going on, just in case!


   
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Re: group therapy... - September 11th 2014, 12:00 AM

Yeah, I mean that is the bottom line, you should give it a whack but then if you're clearly not comfortable with the particular group you have, I mean that is a matter of welfare, you are not doing your recovery process much justice by staying in by group you don't feel very comfortable with. I have never done group therapy but I have done individual councelling and can thus see the value in group therapy. I mean maybe that could spark the development of a brand new support system for you.

I mean look at us, we're a group responding to people who might be struggling and at the same time, struggling ourselves. We are feeding off of each other and helping each other out, it is literally the same thing LOL. Well, I am not going to pretend like it is the same thing, but I mean that is the same premise, seeking help and making sure you are comfortable enough to help each other out as well and that obviously takes time.

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Re: group therapy... - September 11th 2014, 01:56 AM

Hi There,

I think that talking to your doctor is a great idea.
Even if he says to keep going to a couple more groups just to be sure the group is not for you, that is fine and keeping him up to date is an important part of you getting the right treatment.


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