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Post Getting the most out of therapy - November 2nd 2014, 11:05 AM

Most of the people here have problems.
A good part of the people here go to therapy, hear they should go to therapy, consider going to therapy or have had (bad) therapy experiences.

And in the whole process of people telling you things will get better when you get help. And people telling you you need help. And you working really hard to accept you have a problem, need help and actually getting help. Sometimes you go to therapy feeling at the end of your robe, worn out and totally desperate for anything. And then you do the most stupid thing you can do at that point: You sit back, hope the therapist will help you, and agree with anything and everything because 'hey they're the professional'.

At least that's what I did at first until I realised it doesn't work like that. Of course you heard people say that YOU need to do the work but no one specifies what that means for you so...
When I realised what I was doing didn't work I went researching on how to act in therapy and guess what? I wish I had known this stuff sooner, it would've made last month a whole lot more productive.

I could try to break the stuff down for you but you could also read the articles I have my information from because they are a lot better at it than I am:

We have of course all heard about therapy but a lot isn't true and some stuff is killing our progress. Luckily it helps if we read about these walls in our way of help.

And of course it's also good to read some do's.

This one I really enjoyed even though it's less helpful than others it's really funny and it still contains other good info. 10 secrets your therapist won't tell you

Or this one with 8 ways how we spoil our progress and what to do about it

That were the main ones.
It mostly says:
  1. Be honest.
  2. You are the professional about your life, so act the part.
  3. Look for someone you can connect well with.
  4. If something about your therapist bugs you say it.
  5. Don't be afraid to say whatever you want even if it seems unrelated and stupid and unconnected.
  6. Don't be afraid to let them see your worst.
  7. Keep working on your problems as much as possible outside of sessions
  8. take lead in solving stuff
  9. research different options
  10. understand that sometimes it may be different from what you expected
  11. be open for change
  12. accept that change will probably hurt
  13. try to give things time limits so you don't put things off to much
  14. talk about challenges that going to therapy brings with it
  15. understand sometimes things get worse first
  16. ask questions
  17. make the process a high priority in your life
  18. don't ditch things because of discomfort discuss them instead
At least that's what I could make of it but I highly suggest you read them yourself as I probably missed out on loads of stuff.


Also look around this website more cause I really think it has a lot of great advise to offer.

And for who's interested I have a article for people who have a bad therapy experience

I hope this will help you guys as much as I think it will help me.


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Re: Getting the most out of therapy - November 2nd 2014, 08:00 PM

Hi,

Thanks for sharing about your experiences with therapy and what you have found helpful.
I definitely can relate to what you have mentioned here and hope as well that this is helpful to many other people.
Take care.


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Re: Getting the most out of therapy - November 2nd 2014, 09:44 PM

Thank you I hope it will help a lot of people too.


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