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stressful situation - January 23rd 2018, 12:11 PM

[SIZE="a"]Dear TeenHelpers,
I'm having a break until Monday. I'm in quite an unusual situation because I wanted to change schools after the break and I did submit applications to a few, but I will get the reply on Thursday/Friday, in one case even on Monday. Which, of course, is very late. Therefore I won't know which school I'll be going to till the very last days, and this uncertain situation makes me very insecure.
My biggest fear is whether other pupils will accept me. I have also never changed schools in the middle of a schoolyear before, so it's difficult for me to get into a class where students know each other already.
Now I have the feeling that every day I get closer to my first day in a different school. Even the sheer idea makes me start having a panic attack. Do you know how I could cope with that?
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Re: stressful situation - January 23rd 2018, 07:41 PM

Uncertain situations are often difficult to deal with, as we can often struggle with the unknown and this can cause anxiety.

I've not changed schools before, but like any transition, starting somewhere new can always be a bit nerve wracking. It's understandable that you would be worried about whether other pupils would accept you, seeing as we are in the middle of the school year. That said, you'd be surprised at how accommodating people can be. And if for any reason you feel you aren't being accepted, you can always talk to a teacher. They will understand that being new, and joining in the middle of a term, can be difficult and so they may be able to help you settle in a bit more.

As for anxiety, it can help to express your worries to someone who can reassure you, like you have done here. You can also try looking for distractions to take your mind off the anxiety since school is still a few days away yet. Exercise has been known to decrease anxiety, but in general, anything that you enjoy or that you get sucked into will help take your mind off the worrying and help you to feel less anxious. Another thing if you feel you have to worry about it, is to think of how you would deal with the situation if the worst case scenario happened. It can help us to realise that no matter how bad the scenario may seem, it's not the end of the world, and there are always ways to get through things. And remember, it's just a scenario- it might not even happen!

You can also try deep breathing and meditating exercises. There are plenty of apps, websites and instructional videos online to help guide you through these type of exercises. Usually deep breathing starts in your abdomen (lower stomach) and you take a deep breath in for 3 seconds, and then out for 3 seconds for a minute or until you feel calmer. Deep breathing helps to relax your muscles and can help to prevent or calm you down from a panic attack.

I hope things go well for you in your new school. You can always try to find out if they have any counselling services in your new school as well if you feel you may need professional help for dealing with anxiety.

Take care and best of luck in your new school!


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