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This is getting out of hand... - June 13th 2018, 04:14 PM

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I've had anxiety for quite awhile. But it's really starting to get worse. I'm just about in tears atm because I think my best friend is trying to kill himself. What reasons do I have to believe that? He's not answering his phone. He's tried to before. That's all. This happens a lot: I'll think someone is trying to kill themself, or is cutting me off, or hates me, etc., when it's usually something minor like they got their phone taken or I'm just out-of-my-fucking-mind neurotic. I'm already on Concerta for ADD and Wellbutrin for depression, so I'm not sure how likely it is that I can get another medication for anxiety. Is there anyway I can just...not?
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Re: This is getting out of hand... - June 13th 2018, 06:07 PM

I think it's fairly common to worry about those who don't message back or think that we are somehow at fault and they hate us. Though it does seem to be causing you a lot of upset.

Sometimes when we are anxious and depressed, we can 'catastrophize' and assume the worst. Maybe when this happens, it might help to get some paper and split it in half. On one side, write down your thoughts, and on the other, try to challenge them. So for example, if someone isn't replying to you and you think they hate you, try thinking of other reasons why they might not be responding- perhaps they are busy? not at their phone/computer? If you feel like they hate you, ask yourself, what evidence do you have? If there isn't any, you can tell yourself that these thoughts are just your negative inner critic. Thoughts aren't reality, and more often or not, they show us how we feel about ourselves and how we think about the world.

As for your friend, I think your concern is understandable. If he has attempted to take his own life before and he is answering his phone, it may be a bit harder to try to challenge those thoughts. But then again, you can always ask yourself how he has been recently and whether there is anything that he might've said or gone through recently that would indicate how he feels. Otherwise, just give him some time to get back to you. Though if you are really concerned about him (and his mood and behaviour has changed) then it's okay to talk to a mutual friend or a family member of his to check on him and see how he is if he hasn't been online for a while.

It's worth looking into medication for anxiety, as long as it doesn't interact with your other medications. Maybe this is something to bring up with your doctor or psychiatrist? Equally, I'm wondering if you have had any counselling and if not, would you consider having counselling? Medication can help with our moods, but things like Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) can help us to change how we think, feel and behave with regards to certain situations, such as worrying about those that don't get back to us.

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