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Am I Overreacting? - November 21st 2009, 02:59 AM

I don't exactly know where to put this, I don't know if this is anything mental, and it probaly isn't, but....

My parents are really strict and overprotective. It's for my own good, I know, but sometimes I really just want to experience (the good aspects) of a normal teenager's life. My friends are starting to be allowed to do things, and I'm not. My 12-year old friend has more freedom than me. I keep telling them I'm scared they'll leave me, and get tired of me, but they keep reassuring me they won't. But you know how life goes....sometimes people just drift away, especially if someone just gets too boring or old or whatever...

But now to the point, I know this won't matter in the future, and it's a silly thing all teenagers worry about, but I'm concerned about the now. Everytime my classmates would talk about plans or going out or how much fun it was last night, it would just hit me like a glass bowl, I would just get so depressed, like very, very down (though I think my hormones have something to do with that), and so jealous, or a better word may be envious, envious enough that I actually begin to hate all these kids. I'm like obsessed with this whole thing, I think about it everyday, up to the point where I'm even jealous of characters on TV, movies, and books for having freedom, and I just would stop reading the book or watching the movie because it gets me so depressed.

I know, I sound so shallow and stupid, but it's like this thing is eating me. I want to just get rid of it and finally relax, you know?

No, I can't talk to my parents about it. They refuse to listen, and living in an iffy city doesn't help. They're 1st generation immigrant parents, and they're very paranoid. They think EVERYONE'S out to get us. If I try to talk to them about it, they'd pull the whole "we-came-to-America-and-worked-hard-so-you-could-have-a-better-future-because-we-love-you-speech". I get it, I get it. But really, though, they just won't listen!

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Re: Am I Overreacting? - November 23rd 2009, 11:07 PM

I don't think you're overreacting. I struggle with the same thing (lack of freedom), and I'm sure other teenagers do. You're not alone on this one.

I'm not exactly sure how to advise you - I have a very overbearing mother and I just try to avoid her, since I don't know how to handle her and my words tend to dig my hole deeper, even when I try hard not to get myself in more trouble. We are not immigrants but my mother still believes people are out to get me...she doesn't even think I can handle taking the subway by myself, but I can and I do so without her knowing of course!

If anyone else adds a comment here, I'd be interested in listening as well.

Good luck


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