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Dissociative identity disorder - January 9th 2010, 09:13 PM

sorry its a little long. Basically I need advice on how to treat my friend who I think has DID.

My best friend, lets call him John, who has always mentioned there was someone else in his head, someone who he used to be, lets call that part of him Lewis, and he had trouble controlling it and sometimes it was the other him. My group of friends were always quite sceptical about it because he was known for lying and stuff to get with girls.

That was a couple of years ago though, and he has grown up a lot, and i've gotten very close to him. I've learnt to see when it's a line and when its real, and i can even joke about it with him. But since we've got closer, he's opened up to me more, and told me quite a bit about his other side.
I started to recognize when i was talking to John, and when I was talking to Lewis. Lewis never really knew me, he had some vague memory that he knew me since me and John used to be really close, and he knew he liked me. Now, as I've spoken to his Lewis side quite a bit, he's gotten to know me himself. John told me Lewis likes me, yet he never remembers conversations I've had with him.

Now I've gotten to know both sides well enough so I can see it in his eyes when he's struggling to keep control, and I can see it when he's changed. I can even tell when talking to him online. But it's still odd for me.

A few months ago he went to the doctors, and was diagnosed with something, but by the time he told me, he'd forgotten its name all he remembered was it was Dis-something Disorder.
Last week I found a link to DID, and when I read about it, it sounds just like him, so I guess it was what he was diagnosed with.

My question is, is there anyway of treating him that will help now both personalities are open with me. I find it really awkward when Lewis refers to John in the 3rd person. When he's Lewis, do I call him Lewis and join him on refering to John in the third person? Would it be bad to treat them as 2 seperate people? Or is it helpful for him that I'm one of the few people who actually recognizes when he's not quite himself?

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Re: Dissociative identity disorder - January 10th 2010, 01:53 AM

Well, does he live with his parents? Are they aware? If so, maybe he should be observed by a psychiatric professional for a bit? I mean, they'd have a better chance of observing John and Lewis, and maybe getting them both to agree to treatment. At least, thats what I would do in such a situation. I'm not sure, to be honest, but I mean, maybe attempting too much yourself could become dangerous.
   
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Re: Dissociative identity disorder - January 10th 2010, 04:20 AM

No he doesn't. He's 20, but he doesn't like doctors and wouldn't have treatment. It took us long enough to get him to go last time. He generally deals with things himself, and he has a pretty good grip on it, it's just he says I know him better than anyone else, and I don't know how many people he's really tried to explain this too. If its just me I don't want to behave in the wrong way if it would make things worse. I don't even know if there is a 'wrong' or 'right' way though.
   
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Re: Dissociative identity disorder - January 10th 2010, 05:06 AM

Well if he doesn't harm anyone, there's not much you can do. However, if it affects things, like everyday life things (not being able to work, harming self/other people, etc) then you need to get him help, even if it means trying to find a professional who can take him in.
   
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