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Thumbs down Self Concious - August 17th 2010, 12:56 AM

Hi, I'm Bailey. So recently, I've been having a lot of issues with my body. Okay well, it hasn't just been recently, it's been a long time but it's getting worse. I am super self concious. Thanks to my Italian heretage, I am not super skinny (I'm not supper fat either, just above normal weight) and my oily skin makes me have zits. My teeth were crooked so now I was braces and I have glasses. I'm pretty much everyone's description of a nerd: Fat, zits, braces, and glasses. Oh, and (again thanks to my heretage) I have frizzy curly hair

But when I'm at formal events and I'm wearing beautiful clothes and my hair is done perfectly, I feel like the prettiest girl in the world. But that doesn't happen much. I always feel left out and how parters with me wouldn't want to work with me. If I hear anybody laughing behind me (it could even be my friends) I feel like they're laughing at me. And if someone says something about 'Some people need to do better', I always think they're talking about me. Especially in gym, where I can barely do sit ups and push ups and there's a cute guy in my class.

[Kinda girl part here] I have started my puberty, but none of my 'cleavage' has started yet. Skinny girls walk around the school showing their cleavage and guys will stare at them. My crush won't even take one look at me.

So I feel bad and stupid. Especially last night when my mom saw me eating a cookie, so she goes "Don't eat too many of those, you don't want to get fat....er" That made me mad, so I yelled "Mom!" and she's like "Get mad at me all you want, but it's true"

Please help?!?!?!

I need some comfort; even my friends sometimes help
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Re: Self Concious - August 17th 2010, 02:11 AM

looks mean so little, for it is looks that capture the eyes it is personality that captures the heart...just work hard to stay fit it's hard trust me i know it isn't easy, i train for mixed martial arts...no one said it'd be easy they just said it'd be worth it. try getting some acne cleanser and stuff and cleanse your skin every morning and night, and cleavage will all come in good time besides you don't want boys to notice you just because of your cleavage, and being a nerd is what you make it, its a compliment it means your smart, you ont need anyone one to think you are pretty but YOU as long as you believe it thats all that matters you are beautiful inside and out in your own way hang in there feel free to pm me and i'd be happy to be your moral support

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Re: Self Concious - August 17th 2010, 05:43 PM

Honestly, parents can be like that. Perhaps try snacking on some veggies or something instead, at least at home. Maybe if your mom sees you snacking healthier, she'll have less to say to belittle you.

This being all said, you've hardly started pubrity. You have a LOT more growing to do, cleavage-wise and height-wise. For all you know, you could fill out in the chest and grow taller, thus thin out. No need to fuss over it, especially when you're at the point where you're still growing.

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Re: Self Concious - August 27th 2010, 12:29 AM

When you described your looks you only said negative things. I bet youre beautiful, but you cant see past all the flaws you see in yourself. You're not alone in having things you dont like about yourself, even the "skinny girls with cleavage" will have a list that is probably as long as yours. So dont worry about your looks so much, because you deserve to be happy. And you havent even really gone through puberty yet you said, and you body will change a lot. You probably just have some baby fat still, it will come off eventually. Everyone has zits, and I bet you rock your glasses.

Dont worry about your crush and your mom. Boys are stupid at 13, and your mom should not being saying things like that. Try not to let it get to you. Feel better, and PM me anytime. You remind me so much of myself :P

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