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Question - April 23rd 2011, 02:11 PM

Do parents get embarrassed if their child is diagnosed with a mental health problem? Do they think it looks bad on them? Does it look bad on them?

I want to know why my mum is acting the way she is. I haven't been diagnosed with anything. I can't even get any help.

She called my self harm my 'silly hurting myself thing' and she says that I just act the way I do to make myself more interesting. She says she's looking out for me and trying to do the best for me but if I tell her that something's up she doesn't believe me.

Do you think she really thinks I'm just an attention seeker or is she scared to find out the truth?


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Re: Question - April 23rd 2011, 03:09 PM

There's no way for us to know what your mother really thinks. It is difficult for some people to face the truth, though. Finding out that a person they love is hurting can bring feelings of fear, guilt, and confusion. Some people may distance themselves from the situation. You need to let your mother know that you need her. Although she may not know how to react in this situation, I'm certain that she cares for you just the same. Perhaps you can help her better understand you by explaining self harm and why you hurt yourself, and how it affects you.

I don't think it is embarrassing for a parent to have a child who has a psychological problem. It does not necessarily make the parent look bad unless they are not as supportive as they could be for their child.


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Re: Question - April 23rd 2011, 04:48 PM

There are many reasons, as Angel said, why a parent might avoid discussing mental illness, or avoiding supporting the idea.

Have you tried asking your mother why she doesn't seem to acknowledge it how you wish she would?


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Re: Question - April 23rd 2011, 08:27 PM

I'm scared to because she just says that I'm just trying to make myself interesting.


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Re: Question - April 23rd 2011, 10:20 PM

Don't be scared sweetheart. Try to get through them to tell them that you need help is tough. Even just telling my mom that I wanted to see a personal counselor was hard for me.
If shes not believing you, that shes saying that your just trying to get attention or just trying to seem more interesting, you really do need to sit down with her and tell her whats really going on and that for the sake of your health that you need to get some help. If she doesnt listen again, try looking online by yourself for help. Im sure there has to be something in you area that can help you. Thats exactly what I've been doing.
Maybe its just not registering to her because shes surprised that you would harm yourself. I dont know. But like I said , try sitting her down and talking to her. Maybe it will come through to her. Just tell her that for your health you want to see someone about it.
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Re: Question - April 28th 2011, 05:16 PM

My mum is the same, she doesn't understand my mental health and says i am attention seeker.. Some moms just can't cope with their children suffering.. Or some just don't understand..
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