Female Advice Preferred: So confused...

[Rose Rayne]

My emotions have gone haywire! Like i dont know what's going on, if anything I should be happy. I finally have a boyfriend who respects me and treats me like Im important! But somethings have been getting to me, like pissing me off or something.

♪ My boyfriend is a bit clingy and people keep commenting on our relationship saying that he's too clingy or its early for the "I love you"s and I dont think it's their say but Im not sure.

♪ My friend irritates the hell out of me now. Ever since her school started and she was inducted into the "popular" crowd at her school, she's been talking about them NON STOP. and even her unrelated questions and questions about my lifee irritates me.

♪ Im losing my best friends. Freshman year and everyone has new friends and have ZERO time to even text me. I have to text them and I dont think its right. We barely talk at school and dont even sit together at lunch.

♪ To add to that, I have become a bit of a loner. I talk to no one. I hang out with no one. Too late to join any after shcools and basically everyone thinks that im awkward. So i have no friends. None that know me...

♪ every little thing pisses me off. EVERY LITTLE THING. everyday something upsets me and at the moment I want to cry.

Im so lost and confused. Someone called me bipolar but i dont think thats it. I used to be depressed but i eventually got over it... right? So what is my issue??

[LeapOfFayth]

You don't have an issue, this is just how teenaged life an be. Life is what you make of it, if you think you're too introverted then try to be more extroverted. If you think you're drifting apart from your friends you have two options, say or do something about it or watch them live their seperate lives. Making new friends isn't as hard as it seems, everybody has this same problem some people are just better actor. If you see someone interesting talk to them and branch out, you might be nervous but I guarantee you most people would react similar to if you were them.

People like being around people whetherr they like it or not, its human nature to seek eachother out, why are you online on a forum?

Short simple answer, don't lay down and let life pass you by, do something about your dilemmas other than being an idle passenger of life. Be that person you ant to be, high school is your time!

And no its definitely not bipolar, people throw that ord around and have no idea what it means. I have bipolar, if you thought high school was hell for you? Lol, ask me about mine.

[Childish Giggle]

Originally Posted by Rose Rayne

♪ My boyfriend is a bit clingy and people keep commenting on our relationship saying that he's too clingy or its early for the "I love you"s and I dont think it's their say but Im not sure.

Your relationship, you decide. NOt others.

Originally Posted by Rose Rayne

♪ My friend irritates the hell out of me now. Ever since her school started and she was inducted into the "popular" crowd at her school, she's been talking about them NON STOP. and even her unrelated questions and questions about my lifee irritates me.

Talk to her about this. She won't know that you're getting irritated till the time you tell her.

Originally Posted by Rose Rayne

♪ Im losing my best friends. Freshman year and everyone has new friends and have ZERO time to even text me. I have to text them and I dont think its right. We barely talk at school and dont even sit together at lunch.

It happens a lot in schools. You have to move on and find new friends.

Originally Posted by Rose Rayne

♪ every little thing pisses me off. EVERY LITTLE THING. everyday something upsets me and at the moment I want to cry.

Im so lost and confused. Someone called me bipolar but i dont think thats it. I used to be depressed but i eventually got over it... right? So what is my issue??

I think its the result of the things you mentioned above. The changes in life, that are becoming difficult for you to cope up with.

[Rose Rayne]

thanks both of you. For Fricky Ricky, I get what your saying but for me, it's hard to talk to people and make friends. I'm abnormally shy. Like I dont talk to anyone. And its weird but Im afraid to. But I want to Im only afraid because of two things;

One. My mom used to always put me down about my friends. Not to be a bad parent but just that she used to always tell me "not everyone is your friend." And she was saying that about the only friends I had. And i see people being social and outgoing and it irritates me to the point of no return. Im mad because I cant be like that. I cant helpp that Im shy. Ive been told by my counsler that I am one of the most shy-est people she's ever met/helped. I dont think its fair but I dont know what to do.

You told me to branch out. It leads me to my second reason. Whenever I do "branch out" i am commonly and most likely made fun of. Been the same for as long as I can remember. People love to point out my flaws and Im not sure why but what other people think reallly get to me. I try not to let it bother me but there is nno way to get around it. Especially since i have strong emotions that control my actions over my own thought process.

And im online on a forum because lately complete strangers have been giving me the best advice and its been helping. Its soothing mentally. Like I have NO ONE to go to. I dont trust people like I used to as a result of being backstabbed or heart broken. Well people face to face. Most people that live near me and go to my school are... well they only care about themselves.

And as for Pisces;

Thats what Ive been saying but no matter what happens people ALWAYS put their inputs in and little comments and im just so sick of it.

Ive tried talking to her about it. All my friends told me was "No were not" and then stopped texting me... ): And as I stated before, its not easy for me to make friends so I cherish ones i have and try to keep them around for as long as possible. Unfortunately Im not doing a very good job.

And me and changes do NOT mix well. I hate change. Cant stand it. Which is why im having trouble and probably why im so.... "unstable?"

[Childish Giggle]

Originally Posted by Rose Rayne

One. My mom used to always put me down about my friends. Not to be a bad parent but just that she used to always tell me "not everyone is your friend." And she was saying that about the only friends I had. And i see people being social and outgoing and it irritates me to the point of no return. Im mad because I cant be like that. I cant helpp that Im shy. Ive been told by my counsler that I am one of the most shy-est people she's ever met/helped. I dont think its fair but I dont know what to do.

i think your mom has been right till now. These friends have left you so it shows they weren't the real friends
And as for being shy, nothing wrong with it. I must be shier than you with strangers.

Originally Posted by Rose Rayne

You told me to branch out. It leads me to my second reason. Whenever I do "branch out" i am commonly and most likely made fun of. Been the same for as long as I can remember. People love to point out my flaws and Im not sure why but what other people think reallly get to me. I try not to let it bother me but there is nno way to get around it. Especially since i have strong emotions that control my actions over my own thought process.

OKay here's the thing, the people who really care about you, will tell you the truth. But those who mean it in a good way, will make sure you know that they mean no harm. ONly good. Like your mom.

Originally Posted by Rose Rayne

And as for Pisces;

Thats what Ive been saying but no matter what happens people ALWAYS put their inputs in and little comments and im just so sick of it.

We have 2 ears. KNow why? To listen with one one throw it out from the other

Originally Posted by Rose Rayne

Ive tried talking to her about it. All my friends told me was "No were not" and then stopped texting me... ): And as I stated before, its not easy for me to make friends so I cherish ones i have and try to keep them around for as long as possible. Unfortunately Im not doing a very good job.

Proves your mom's point. You will find friends one day who will accept you for who you are and you won't need to please them to keep them around.

Originally Posted by Rose Rayne

And me and changes do NOT mix well. I hate change. Cant stand it. Which is why im having trouble and probably why im so.... "unstable?"

Neh. Every teen goes through it. I too hate changes. But its a part of life. You'll soon get used to it. Don't give it much thought.

[Rose Rayne]

Thanks so much. That actually makes me feel better(: And eh. Its actually my personality. I take it worse than others do.

[Childish Giggle]

Be comfortable with yourself. I have this sister. And she is like so shy. BUt you know she is comfortable being who she is. And that makes up for her shyness.

[Rose Rayne]

Well good news. I'm no longer dating the guy and Im very happy about it. My friends and I are no longer fighting like we were. Or bond is as good as new! My friend is still slightly irritating but im working on my little anger issues. Hehe. Im making new friends and talking to more people, being more social adn stuff. Im supper happy right noww(:

[Childish Giggle]

Good to know. Just don't try to change yourself for others. Be who you are. Let them accept you as you are and if they don't, they aren't worth it.