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Competition - December 1st 2012, 06:51 AM

Ok...so I have a best friend and we met when we were both recovering from our eating disorders. It's what really brings us together, well I went to college and did pretty great. Gained some weight and only had monthly freak outs, i didn't purge every night and I did some restricting, but not that much. Well my best friend wasn't doin so hot, she lost a ton of weight. Well when I get back and I hang out with her I start falling back into habits because all I see is how tiny she is. It reminds me of when I was that tiny and we always talk about eating disorders when we hang out. Now i'm restricting like crazy, throwing up after every meal, and exercising a lot. She is my best friend and I love her, but i feel like being together is almost bad for both of us. However, she is the only person I know who understands this part of my life. What should I do??
   
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Re: Competition - December 1st 2012, 05:02 PM

Hmm. This is a tough one. First, anything you do in this life needs to be for your benefit. Even if that means taking risks and making sacrifices. I think it would be worth your while if you were to weigh out all the reasons why you recovered in the first place. The situation with your friend is hard because she is a huge trigger for you, but at the same time you really care about her. I think the best thing for the both of you would be to take some time away from each other. If she triggers you so much you're relapsing, then you need to distance yourself until you're in a well enough place in your life that you can stand being around her. Perhaps you could bring this up with her. It's evident that the both of you care for each other. It also might be a good idea to recover TOGETHER. If you see she is recovering, then it will make you feel better about recovery as well.

But either way, you need to make that tough decision to go on without her or not. You need to take in account your well being before any one elses.

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Re: Competition - December 1st 2012, 05:03 PM

Hmm. This is a tough one. First, anything you do in this life needs to be for your benefit. Even if that means taking risks and making sacrifices. I think it would be worth your while if you were to weigh out all the reasons why you recovered in the first place. The situation with your friend is hard because she is a huge trigger for you, but at the same time you really care about her. I think the best thing for the both of you would be to take some time away from each other. If she triggers you so much you're relapsing, then you need to distance yourself until you're in a well enough place in your life that you can stand being around her. Perhaps you could bring this up with her. It's evident that the both of you care for each other. It also might be a good idea to recover TOGETHER. If you see she is recovering, then it will make you feel better about recovery as well.

But either way, you need to make that tough decision to go on without her or not. You need to take in account your well being before any one elses.

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