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Eating Disorders If you or someone close to you is struggling with an eating disorder, reach out here to ask questions or to receive support for recovery.

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Thoughts are never going- getting help - December 20th 2012, 09:06 PM

So i've been battling ED for about 10 years now. It was most serious aged between 12-18, and for the last 3 years i've been working really hard to handle it.

I have many coping mechanisms- I eat with housemates, and we watch tv after- so i cannot leave to purge.

I tell my boyfriend what i eat, so he can ensure i'm eating enough.

Whilst i find these really helpful, and i'm doing really well. Nothing changes in my thought pattern. All the urges are still there. I still see myself as hugely fat and overweight. My mood is linked to my weight.

I try to find a role-model, someone who is a good healthy weight tthat i can focus on. The girl i was looking at just got sectioned for having an ED. And yet, dangerously underweight, thats still the weight that i see as good.

Over the last few months i've opened up to my councillor abotu my difficulties and endless fights with food. And she's great. But it doesn't seem to be going anywhere. She suggested that she refers me to an ED specialist thing. But i'm really anxious. I find it soo difficult to talk about. And i don't feel i need it- i'm currently a healthy weight surely it's for people who are near death of starvation or soemthing. :/ What would it involve


   
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Re: Thoughts are never going- getting help - December 20th 2012, 09:35 PM

Hey Sammy, I can understand how changing counselors or treatment would make you nervous, especially when you find it difficult to talk about in the first place. If you did go to a specialist it might help to remember that you aren't the first person to bring it up to them and you're telling them these things so they can help you get better. And you don't have to tell them everything in one sitting, do so as you feel comfortable.

When we think of stereotypical ED treatment we often picture people who are emaciated or near death; and maintaining a healthy weight is great, but physical weight is only part of this. People of all different shapes and sizes can develop ED's and thought patterns also need to be dealt with. As for what it would specifically involve, your counselor would be the best person to ask.


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Re: Thoughts are never going- getting help - December 21st 2012, 01:48 AM

Hey as Katie said it is okay to be nervous to change counselors, but keep in mind it is for the best.Maybe the new counselor can help you with the thoughts. It is good that you are a healthy weight now and you have found good coping mechanisms, but maybe an ED counselor can provide you that last bit of help you need. Stay positive Feel free to pm me any time






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Re: Thoughts are never going- getting help - December 21st 2012, 02:38 AM

Hey I'm proud of you for taking this step in trying to get rid of these thoughts. You might think you don't need it, but if you're still thinking about it all the time it won't hurt to let it all out. You're awesome for doing this well & getting to your natural body weight. Keep up the great work, it'll only get better from here!


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Re: Thoughts are never going- getting help - December 22nd 2012, 04:53 PM

That's great that you have things set in place to make you eating better, but that's only half the battle. You can't recover unless you work through the issues driving the thoughts. I'm glad you're talking to a counselor! You know you're allowed to tell them when something isn't helping, right? I have a hard time with that one myself. Just the other day though, I told my counselor I didn't feel like we were getting anywhere because all we do is talk about the things I already know. So since then she's dug deeper, which hurts but it helps. It's always a risk switching to a new counselor because you don't know them and they don't know you. But it's important that you talk with them, because they are most certainly there to help. And you have to remember that recovery has to feel uncomfortable to work. Because it's all about stepping out of your personal comfort zone. Recovery is tough work, but you're a strong person. And I have no doubt that you can do this <3


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