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Question What is Recovery? - April 14th 2013, 08:34 PM

Lately I've been thinking that maybe I do have a problem.. and I maybe need that little extra helping hand.. but I'm really scared and I was wondering..

What does recovery really consist of? What do you do? What happens? How does it start?
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Re: What is Recovery? - April 14th 2013, 10:34 PM

It all really depends on how much help you need. If you are at a seriously low and dangerous weight, you could be hospitalized for a little while or maybe sent to an in patient clinic.
Maybe if I share my story it'll help give you a general idea. My recovery isn't as intense as someone else's may be because my anorexia was caught early.
So, it started out when I passed out at work. People had noticed I'd been losing weight so the passing out part kinda brought everything into the light. The first thing that happened was after I spoke to my parents about it, they made a doctor's appointment for me. There, I was referred to two clinics: 1. an inpatient clinic 2. an outpatient clinic. It was (and still is) really all up to me whether I am sent to inpatient or not. If I keep progressing then great! I can continue with my outpatient care. If I start purging again or lose more weight then I will be sent to inpatient (which would kinda be like a boarding school/jail kinda thing). I'm not very far into recovery yet but I am doing good so far. I have an eating disorder specialist at the out patient clinic that I see every other week. I see my doctor every few weeks and a social worker every week. It really is up to you when it comes to recovery. Some may need more help than others. Being sent to an inpatient clinic would be a real big life changer. I wouldn't wish it upon anyone to be sent there.

You may not think it at first, but recovery is worth it. Wouldn't you rather be able to eat and not give a damn about it? It sure feels good, take my word for it. With recovery you will be able to get to the bottom of things and figure out why you started the disordered eating in the first place and figure out how to untwist all those lies about food and your body that you force yourself to believe.

[/u][/b]Get strong and healthy, okay?

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Re: What is Recovery? - April 14th 2013, 11:44 PM

Hey Maria!

Well, I think recovery is a very personal thing. Weight really doesn't have that much to do with it, although like Cassie said if you're severely underweight you may be admitted to an inpatient unit. Mostly, it's a mental thing: learning to accept yourself and your body, changing the way you think about food and developing new coping strategies. I sound like I'm doing a sales pitch here

Anyway. Recovery is a process; it is not forever. It is not a comfortable experience, although it is a relief, and as someone who is newly/mostly recovered, I can definitely say it's worth it. The first few months were hell, after that things got a bit easier. I struggled at the start to hold onto my eating disorder, I refused to let go, and this is what made it more difficult.

A part of recovery (but not all of it) will involve you changing your disorder eating habits. If you binge/purge, you'll need to work on identifying why you do this, distracting yourself when you get the urge, and replacing it with a healthier coping strategy like blogging. If you restrict your food intake, you'll need to work on getting it to a healthy level, and a dietitian will be able to help you with that, or a doctor. There's also a sample recovery meal plan here but watch out for numbers. I know it says bulimia but it's just a sample of what a person in recovery should eat. The rule is you can eat extra food on your meal plan (for example, if you fancied a chocolate bar) but you can't skip anything, not yet. Flexibility will come with time.

All right. The weight part. Set point theory dictates that your body has a natural weight and if you eat to your true hunger, and a variety of foods, you'll reach and maintain it. That means no restricting, binging, purging, etc. It may be higher or lower than the weight you are now, everyone is different. Letting go of the illusion of "control" you have over your weight is one of the best steps you can take. It's futile for humans to try and control their weight- it's rare for someone to lose weight and keep it off whilst eating naturally and not dieting constantly and also for someone to unnaturally gain weight and keep it whilst eating naturally and to their true hunger.

Okay. Help. So there's loads of people you can go to for help. Your parents are always a good bet, or the people you live with as they can help keep you on track. A family friend. Some adult you trust. Some teacher you trust. A doctor. Personally, I went Parents- Doctor. I told my parents (blurted it out at 12am) and they made an appointment to see a doctor for me and we went from there. I was given the "improve or you're going to inpatient" choice. I wasn't clinically underweight at this point- eating disorders aren't about weight. Someone can drop dead from an eating disorder and be at a perfectly "healthy" (Bullshit, I hate BMI) weight, because if you're not eating enough or binging or purging you're doing a lot of damage to your body that you can't see. I won't give you that lecture; it won't help. I will however say it's terrifying, so just be aware, yeah? There's no such thing as "not being sick enough" "not purging enough" "not underweight enough" to die.

Anyway I went off on a dark tangent So you could tell any of those people. You can say it to their face, you can arrange a meeting between a school teacher and your parents and get the teacher to tell them. You could write a letter, an email, show them your blog or posts here. Whatever will work best in your personal situation. Whoever you tell might seem angry at first- they're not angry at you, no matter what it may feel like. They're scared is all. If you like you could explain to them ways they could help you.

Make the most of positive moods. In my case they came and went randomly. When you're in a positive mood, make lasting changes, like throwing away scales, telling someone what's going on, writing up meal plans, making positive affirmation cards (CLICK) or making a positive tumblr. It only takes 30 seconds of bravery to make a real change.

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