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Question Afraid my friend may be anorexic and/or bulimic - June 4th 2013, 01:48 PM

I was looking through my friend's facebook pictures and noticed over the past year or so it seems like she's lost a fair amount of weight. She's not the type to do like fad diets or even do excessive exercise. But at school (where we wear baggy uniforms that make it almost impossible to tell if someone's lost weight) she rarely ever eats, but she claims that she eats multiple dinners when she gets home. And I want to believe her, i really hope im just being overly paranoid, but i know she has major issues with depression and anxiety and self harm and suicidal thoughts and i just wanna be sure she's not also starving herself or purging.

So my question is, how do I ask her if she's lost weight, and if she has how do i ask if she's been starving or purging? We're really close, she just doesnt usually talk about her feelings or thoughts unless she's really upset.

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Re: Afraid my friend may be anorexic and/or bulimic - June 4th 2013, 05:20 PM

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It sounds like she could have an eating disorder.
It could be hard to talk about because people like to be secretive about it. Maybe try telling her you love her and bring it up slowly? I purge and I wouldn't be able to tell anyone before but I'm starting to especially if a really close friend asked. <3
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Re: Afraid my friend may be anorexic and/or bulimic - June 4th 2013, 07:48 PM

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Unfortunately, it sounds like she is struggling with an eating disorder. I was very secretive about my behaviors and I found it really hard to tell even the closest people what I was doing to myself. Like what was mentioned above, you might want to bring it up slowly. That way, she can reveal a secret at a time and build up trust on this particular issue. If she does end up telling you what's going on, encourage her to seek help and if she doesn't, you may have to tell a trusted adult on her behalf.


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Re: Afraid my friend may be anorexic and/or bulimic - June 6th 2013, 02:23 AM

Any suggestions on how I bring it up? Our relationship isnt exactly "normal". We both know the other is basically keeping us from running away or killing ourselves when things get bad, we know the other cares alot, but never tell eachother we love eachother. And instead of hugging we tend to rough house because she's not affectionate in general and im a bit of a tom boy. So anysuggestions on how to bring the topic up? Im pretty sure if she is and i ask the right way she'll be honest with me. I just dont know how to word it
   
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Re: Afraid my friend may be anorexic and/or bulimic - June 6th 2013, 03:55 AM

Hey,

Try starting with a text or fb message like, "I know we don't usually talk about these things, but are you okay? You seem to be struggling and I'm worried about you," or something along those lines. Obviously it's better to have this conversation face-to-face, but many people find it harder to talk about things verbally than through text, especially when they're not used to talking about things out loud.

If she doesn't want to talk, then don't push her. Let her know that you're there when she wants to talk, and keep supporting her and reminding her that you care. Same thing if she acts defensive or denies it, like she does when she says she eats multiple dinners, etc. It sounds like you have a close relationship--if you remind her that you're there for her, she will come when she's ready.

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Re: Afraid my friend may be anorexic and/or bulimic - June 6th 2013, 08:57 PM

Your friend could very well have an eating disorder, like Cassie (PerfectlyImperfect) said people with eating disorders can be very secretive of their behaviour and try to avoid letting people see them eat and may make excuses for how they don't actually have a problem. If she is already struggling with a lot of issues (like you said the depression, anxiety, cutting, suicidal thoughts etc) the eating disorder might just be something she feels she can control, although I can't really fully say why she might have an eating disorder, especially when I can't even be certain she has one, each person has their own reasons for it according to circumstance.

All you can really do is let her know you are there for her, let her know your worried about her because it seems like she is going through something and you don't want her to feel like she has to go through it alone and that you want her to know she can talk to you when she is ready. If you can, you can always mention something about how your worried because it seems like she isn't eating enough when you see her and your concerned she might get worn out. You don't have to tell her you think she might have an eating disorder because then she might think your accusing her (even if it's true) and get defensive, if you just let her know that your concerned about her health (by saying your worried she's going to get worn out or something) then she might be willing to open up about it a little more. At the very least let her know your worried about her, that your there to talk and support her if need be.




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