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Why the obsession with thigh gaps? - July 7th 2013, 10:32 PM

I just finished an article in Seventeen about how the desire to have a thigh gap is causing people to have end up with eating disorders because they start doing dramatic things to try to achieve it. I have been seeing this trending for the last year or so, and i get it. I can see what the models look like, they're tall and slim, they're lanky, nothing like people like me who are short and athletically built and curvier. I see the odd girl who is so thin that she can't even fill out her leggings. It's hard for me not to wonder what these girls are eating and if she's even working out (cause then she might at least have a little muscle tone), I would never dare ask because she could be perfectly healthy and I wouldn't want to be the one who drew attention to something she is insecure about.... My point is that a thigh gap has to do with the shape of a persons hips and stuff more then it does with relative skinniness. I'm sure most people could get this if they were incredibly thin (past the point of health) but a lot of people just don't have the body structure for it....

It makes me sad because I don't think a thigh gap makes you look strong, and on so many girls they're so thin they look frail. I've seen girls who are perfectly healthy looking who have this, but it's the unhealthy appearance I've come across all to often that kills me. Maybe it's cause I favour a healthy, strong appearance more and the thigh gap just doesn't do it for me, but why does it for everyone else even though it's obviously so unhealthy?

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Re: Why the obsession with thigh gaps? - July 7th 2013, 10:50 PM

I wish I had the answer. Personally, I agree with you. The obsession with thigh gaps is unhealthy, and they aren't worth all the "hype", so to speak. I think many girls see models that are skin and bones (and as a result, have thigh gaps) and believe that that's what society finds beautiful, so they want to imitate it. They might think it will make them feel like they're worth more, kind of a "maybe if I do x (have a thigh gap), people will like me" mentality.

People seem to like to imitate what's shown in the media, and thigh gaps are a big thing. It's an unrealistic standard and a very flawed mentality, to say the least.

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Re: Why the obsession with thigh gaps? - July 7th 2013, 11:10 PM

People do not always understand that the natural shape of an individual varies, and believe that you can change your shape simply by diet. They see the thigh gap on celebrities or models and believe that they can achieve it too. Bodies don't work like hair; if you like a hair color, you can dye it, but you can't drastically change a body.

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Re: Why the obsession with thigh gaps? - July 8th 2013, 03:44 PM

I had to. Society is fucked man. Some features that are deemed desirable are due to an evolutionary aspect- like having a more symmetrical face is supposed to mean you're more fertile, which might explain why some people find more symmetrical to be the most attractive. However a thigh gap offers no evolutionary advantage whatsoever, so this is purely down to society and it's perception of beauty.

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Re: Why the obsession with thigh gaps? - July 9th 2013, 01:26 AM

Honestly, I've seen so many people idolize thigh gaps and I don't get why it's becoming such a big deal. As others have said, it's all about body structure not thinness. You can be thin and not have a thigh gap. For most people it just isn't possible but you have all these uninformed girls thinking they're horribly fat because their thighs touch. It's sad and horrible because anorexia is terrible and I'd wish that upon no one!

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Re: Why the obsession with thigh gaps? - July 9th 2013, 02:04 AM

I get it when girls say they want a thigh gap. I do understand. But unless you're born with the bone structure for it, I really don't think it's a healthy endeavor, and there are so many gorgeous, strong, athletic women in the world who don't have thigh gaps. Sure, almost all models have them because they're so skinny, but if you look at athletes, who, in my opinion, are truly beautiful, the majority do not have thigh gaps - despite being very thin and muscular and fit. I think that your body is the way it is, and if you eat right and exercise and just try to be as healthy as you can, you should be happy with your body because it's the best it can be.

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