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It isn't helping. - January 16th 2015, 03:09 PM

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I purge. Not always, it hard to be quiet when vomiting every thing out. I know that I eat too much. And no matter how hard I try to cut down on my portions it just doesn't work. Also my meds and lymph node disease make me put on weight. I've put on a good.. {Edited}. I am now at {Edited}. I feel disgusting. Fat. I just want to be thin. A normal size. I want to be beautiful. Even my mom is starting to wear my clothes. It hurts. Especially when people remind me how fat I am. Even my dad called me a pig.

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Re: It isn't helping. - January 16th 2015, 03:25 PM


Purging won't help you lose weight, as you can't get rid of everything you eat- some stuff starts getting digested as soon as it enters your mouth! So this isn't an effective (or healthy) way of losing weight. My advice is to see your doctor, and try and devise a meal plan with him. It's not about eating less, it's about eating everything in moderation. No foods are inherently "good" or "bad", you just need varying levels of each type.

It's not fair at all for your dad to speak to you like that, and it might be worth reminding him that, even though it was probably meant as a joke, saying things like that really hurts and can really make you feel bad. It's not right that you have to hear things like that. You're beautiful. I know you won't believe that, but you are.

If you can't stop the purging alone, consider mentioning it to your doctor. Some therapy or other treatment can be really helpful, as it's a horrible behavior to kick. You are not lesser or more of a person because of your weight. It may be healthy for you to lose weight, so if that's the case (and see your doctor) go for it! But you're just as important regardless of your size.

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Re: It isn't helping. - January 16th 2015, 07:03 PM

Hey there,

I learned the hard way that purging is one of the least effective ways to lose weight, not to mention the awful impacts that it can have on your health and your body down the road. As Laura mentioned, some of the substances in different foods begin to break down and digest almost as soon as they are swallowed because of the way your body receives the nutrients. Even through purging, you will not be able to get rid of everything that you consume, including some of the calories. I don't say that to scare you or upset you - I just want you to see how ineffective purging really is.

Do you have a doctor or family practitioner that you see on a semi-regular basis? If you do, make an appointment with them to discuss your diet. Your weight gain could simply be because of the fact that you're eating the wrong things or that you're not eating enough of the right things. Both of these are incredibly simple fixes that can be done in a much healthier manner. Try teaming up with them to create a diet and exercise plan that is doable for you. It's possible that they may bring a nutritionist into the mix if they feel it is necessary, as their specialization is in proper eating. Either way, they will be able to help you come up with a realistic, healthy plan for you.

I really think you need to talk to your dad about the things that he said. Whether he meant it as a joke or not, it was a completely unacceptable thing for him to say. Let him know that your weight is a sensitive topic for you and that his words hurt you. I'm sure he'll be understanding of it and will hopefully be more conscious of his words in the future.

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Re: It isn't helping. - January 17th 2015, 06:56 AM

I'd say for the purging, you know, just cut back on your portions a little at a time... you know, to stop a bad habit, you need self-discipline, and to build self-discipline, you need to be able to deny yourself that last bite.
The way your stressing about the way others feel about you... Just relaaaaaaaaaax.
I mean, its so much easier said than done... but when you stop caring about what other people think, everything tends to fall into place.

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Re: It isn't helping. - January 20th 2015, 12:38 PM

I agree with what everyone else is saying. Purging does not help you lose weight. It just causes damages to your body. It harms you in the end. Are you currently seeing a therapist/counselor? If not, I highly suggest that you do as there seems to be something in your waking life that is causing you some sort of distress.

Your dad has no right to talk to you like that. It isn't right whatsoever. Have you tried talking to your dad about what he called you? If you haven't done so yet, it could be a good thing to talk to him about it.

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Re: It isn't helping. - January 20th 2015, 03:49 PM


Please look within yourself and try to get on a healthy diet.
Here are some videos that may help you.


And you could change self harm for purging in this video:

She has tons of videos about eating disorders so look around.

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