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Jealous of my dogs.(ed trigger) - July 23rd 2015, 05:11 AM

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I feel so fucked in the head for being jealous of my dogs.

My dog specifically I can feel her rips she weighs so little and is healthy. I wish I could weigh under [Edited] numbers (I understand if it needs to be edited out) I know my ed has gotten really bad and I am looking into treatment for my ed. I just feel like shit for being jealous of a dog and it makes me want to cut, restrict , and purge. I just feel so fucked up.


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Re: Jealous of my dogs.(ed trigger) - July 23rd 2015, 05:21 PM

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The thing is, you can't really help what you're triggered by. Sure you can work on it and desensitize yourself and things, but I wouldn't worry too much on why this triggers you. Don't feel bad, don't feel fucked up. At the end of the day, that's how you feel- don't feel even worse BECAUSE you feel bad. Just accept it, and start working on a way to deal with it.

One of things you could do is remember that she is different to you. She's physically smaller, she has different needs to you, she's a different species. Whenever you feel triggered, remove yourself from the situation, write down your thoughts and then try to rationalize them- write down a different perspective on the situation. The more you do that, the more it should help when you feel triggered- remember the other ways you could react to the situation, and try to look at the situation from that perspective.

For example, if your dog triggers you, take a step outside and write down your thoughts. Then, take a few deep breaths, and think of how someone without an eating disorder would react to seeing your dog. How they might accept that she's small, but then think nothing of it. Or, how they would accept that she's small and then remind themselves that she was a dog and this was an unhealthy thing to compare yourself too. Over time you might find it's easier not to automatically feel triggered by your dog, and instead find yourself fighting the triggering thoughts with thoughts from a different perspective.

I hope that made sense

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Re: Jealous of my dogs.(ed trigger) - July 23rd 2015, 08:44 PM

Hi there.

We don't decide what triggers us. I have triggers which may sound weird to other people but to me they are reality. If this is something that triggers you, it triggers you and that's the bottom line. All I can say is that you need to work on how to manage these triggers and how to deal with them. Work on them. What's going to help you when you get triggered? IE distractions or thinking about something different.

I hope that looking for treatment goes well because you deserve the support. I know we aren't professionals, but keep talking to us because we will help you as much as we can do, okay? I know this is a hard fight but you're worth more than what you put yourself through when it comes to restricting and purging etc. Those habbits aren't healthy and you need to find a way to break the habbits and maybe with some help you can do this so reach out!

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Re: Jealous of my dogs.(ed trigger) - July 28th 2015, 07:09 PM

The others have given great advice. I just want to say that although you feel messed up, it's the illness, not you. I've gone through periods of time where I've been jealous of children, animals, even my guinea pig who was ill and underweight. Try to separate the feelings from yourself. This isn't you talking, it's the eating disorder talking. This is the eating disorder wanting to make you feel bad. It wants to hurt you, but you can fight it.


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