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Should I be worried? - November 8th 2017, 09:20 PM

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I have no idea if this is triggering or not, which is why I put a warning to be safe, but either way, read at your own risk (I say that like this post is in any way important, haha):




I feel like I have no right to post this, but this is something that has been on my mind. Lately I've been super obsessed with my weight, and all I can think about are calories and how little I can get away with. I mean, it has always been something I have dealt with, and I have never really "liked" myself or how I look, it just feels really intense now. I aim for edited or less, but I tend to lose track sometimes and I feel like I go over. It's addictive really, because I see myself losing weight, so I want to do it more. My friends keep telling me I'm skinny but I really can't see it. Honestly, the only reason I eat at this point is so no one is suspicious of me, but if I could get away with it, I wouldn't eat at all. To be honest, I feel like I just want to keep losing weight until I disappear completely, which feels really screwed up. Is there something wrong with me? Also, whenever I eat, I feel sick after for a long time, and I can't help but feel really guilty. As if I'm betraying myself. I was just wondering if this was just me or if I should actually talk to someone about this.


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Re: Should I be worried? - November 10th 2017, 01:36 PM

A general rule is that anything that takes over your life and affects you on a daily basis, is usually unhealthy.

Counting calories can become addictive and in a way, it's a bit like playing a game, where you feel 'rewarded' every time you notice you lose weight. The problem is, where does it end? The more you lose weight, the more you want to do it, and losing weight when you don't need to is unhealthy.

Many people who struggle with disordered eating also feel guilty when they do eat, and this in turn can make them want to lose more weight to compensate. But in reality, your body does need food to keep going.

You're not screwed up, but it does seem that being obsessed with your weight is doing more harm than good and it's probably best that you do talk to someone about this.


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Re: Should I be worried? - November 12th 2017, 01:08 AM

I agree with what Holly has said, if something is consuming your life then there likely is some type of problem.

I think that talking to someone would be a good idea. I know that might be a hard thing to consider doing but, at the end of the day, if you talk to someone it is more likely that you will be able to work on figuring out what is leading to these things. By figuring out the underlying issues you might be able to find a resolution and work on getting to a better place.

I hope that with time things start to improve for you and I hope that you will reach out to someone because you should not have to go through this alone.


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Re: Should I be worried? - November 14th 2017, 07:03 AM

It's normal to monitor your weight, but if you are worried about talking to a psychologist.
   
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Re: Should I be worried? - November 14th 2017, 10:55 AM

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So first of all I want to say this, I honestly do not think it is normal to monitor your weight like the user above me said. A lot of people do not "monitor" their weight they may be caution of what they eat but saying they "monitor" there way is going to extreme.

I can not diagnose you because I am not a specialist but I will say that is disordered eating. Limiting your calories to a certain amount that is under what you should be eating isn't normal at all. It also can and usually is very dangerous.

I totally understand the not like yourself. I have never ever liked myself or they way I look, and how much I weigh. I know how difficult this is especially when people are telling you, that you are skinny and beautiful because unless you believe it yourself it is just nonsense to you.

So about the disordered eating, once you get into that cycle it is very addicting and even though you may have control over it at first it soon controls you and takes over your life. Trust me I know this I have an ED.

So you have probably heard what I am about to say a hundred time, and if your anything like me you will not believe it but I think it is important to say. When you restrict and starve yourself you actually store fat because your body doesn't know when you are going to feed it next. So it actually tends to make you gain weight. Also your body needs food to survive. Think of it as if your a car. The car needs gas to keep it running, we are like the car and the food is a fuel to keep us running.

I highly recommend you tell someone you trust about this, a parent school councilor( if your in school) and from there they should help you get the help you need. Like a therapist that specializes in eating disorders.

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Re: Should I be worried? - November 14th 2017, 12:36 PM

As Essa, the poster above me, has said it is not normal to monitor your weight. You get fixated on that number and it consumes you. One tenth off or one whole number off and you start to go into a panic. It's too high, it's too low, almost there. My nutritionist has emphasized time and time again, do not get on that scale! Check it no more than once or twice a week.

The safest way to lose weight is maintain a healthy diet and exercise. Try to make the effort to walk out your door three times a week, and not just to go to school or run errands. Use your free time to take a walk around the park or around your street. It doesn't have to be an invigorating walk, it can be at a slow, leisurely pace. But the point is, get out there and walk at least three times a week.

It is so important to eat appropriately. Eat three meals a day, and don't look at the calorie count. I have begun this dangerous habit lately, seeing a number and thinking "that's too much!" or "that's hardly anything!" which either triggers the binge eating or restricting. Just focus what is on your plate. A nutritious meal will go a long way, especially for a young person such as yourself.

I would also recommend talking to a nutritionist if you are really worried about your weight. They can work with you on maintaining a healthy diet all the while losing weight. But know, you don't have to be skin and bones to look perfect. You're probably perfect just the way you are, and if other people say so then it's true. They're not saying that to be nice, they are not lying to your face. It's the truth.

   
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Re: Should I be worried? - November 21st 2017, 07:49 AM

I know how you feel my friend. When I look at food I think it's something evil that will make me fat and ugly (don't mind how messed up that sounds) I eat only when my mom or friends start yelling and bothering me about it, otherwise I try to avoid food. Counting calories is almost my life nowadays... If I eat past [Edited] I feel like I'm the most fat disgusting person in the world. And for some weird reason when I'm starving it feels good even though it hurts like crazy. I'm kinda getting worried though because my mom starts freaking out when I ask her "have I lost any weight yet" She starts yelling and stuff. I know that she wants me to stop losing weight but it only makes things worse. Whenever someone says I'm skinny or slim I feel like they are just trying to make me feel better. How can I belive what they say when the only thing I see in the mirror is "fat" And "ugly". Exercise has been an important part in this too, every day I do at least 100 sit-ups but after I hit 100 I force myself to do more and more until I have no energy left. But that still doesn't seem enough, I exercise for hours a day and i see no result which motivates me to do more. I know that this is messed up and bad for me but I can't stop. I just want to see myself as " Pretty"

Yeah... Tmi BUT this is just showing that your not alone in this. This whole thing sounds so messed up (believe me I know) but it's just a small part of my complicated life. And I know you can get through this (and anyone else struggling with this... Me included) even though this is so freakin hard to battle. I belive in you friend, good luck!

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Re: Should I be worried? - November 23rd 2017, 01:26 PM

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It's normal to monitor your weight, but if you are worried about talking to a psychologist.

So, I wanted to mention that, in today's society, monitoring ones weight has become normal but, in reality, it isn't. In most cases, monitoring your weight can lead a person down a slippery slope.
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What can be a bit more normal is making sure that you make healthy eating choices. This means eating the right amount of calories (The daily amount recommended so your body can function) in a day and also trying to make healthy choices.

I think the difficulty we all face is that weight and dieting and all that has become the norm. I know, people are constantly talking about the diets they are on and how much they weigh. This can make it hard to determine what is 'normal' and when I was in treatment for my ED we were taught to just try to eat our daily exchanges (things like starches, veggies, fruit and protein). We were told that if we did this we would be able to be healthy.

What might be beneficial to you is talking to your general practitioner about some of these thoughts and than seeing if they can help you find a therapist and a dietitian to work with. I know plenty of people who benefit from both of these things and you might as well.

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