Triggering (ED): my sisters starving herself

[Banshee-Screamer]

my sister is starving herself she is hardly eating at all, my parents tell her to eat and she wont, yesterday she said she would eat before she went out to the party, she ate 1 quarter of a sandwhich and then came home drunk she wont eat and my mum is trying to convince her to eat but she just wont eat. she keeps saying i have eaten enough its fine but she hasnt, all she ate yesterday was a yogguart and hot cross bun and a chewy bar and 1 quarter of a sandwhich. my dad said to my sister today you need to eat your making yourself ill and she tells him im not its fine.

[floatingangel]

hey hun, how long has this been going on? and how old's your sister? if she's younger, you can hope that this is a passing phase/ that you can try to boost her selfesteem enough so that she would gain more confidence in herself as a person.
if this goes on and when your sis seems to have thoughts that revolve around food all the time, it's time to get some help..
don't stress yourself out. but do research on how you can help her. there're loads of materials available online now. (:
take care and keep us updated!

[Victoria ♥]

Hi,

I think its important for you to help your sister try to understand the cause for the change in behaviour. It's likely that something has sparked her to start behaving like this...it could be because of a big change in her life, self-esteem, wanting to have some control over something.

Once you have found out the cause for the problem you might be able to sort it out and stop it carrying on. tell your sister that her behaviour is worrying you and you think you should talk about it so that you can hopefully sort it out.

[Banshee-Screamer]

its been going on for a year now, at first she just started calorie counting and things and now its getting to the point where she is simpley not eating enough and is starveing herself, she also does this thing where she refusses to eat carbhydrates or eat a certain food group. but the thing is i dont know how to help my sister because i also have problems around food, some days i will eat loads and loads and other days i will not eat meals and just not eat very much at all, i no my parents are worrying about my sister and i am aswell, but i no that i also have a problem with food and i dont want them to start worying about me aswell.

[Lygophobia]

Hey Lydia.

Im really sorry you're sisters eating is having an affect on you. The truth is, you can't, you're mum can't, no one can make her eat. You're sister's eating is in her control, she is the only one who can feed herself. My sister is recovering from anorexia. She's been in and out of hospitals, so i can understand how this is feeling for you.

Is she getting any help? If not, you could take her to the docotors, offer to go with her is she wants or let her go on her own, and see if she can recieve any help. Im sure she can. If she says she doesnt want to go, maybe you could go you're self, ask about what help she can get and also ask for you're self, to see what support you can recieve while helping you're sister beat this.

All i can suggest is try be there for her when she needs someone. Make sure she feels loved and appriciated. Have some fun with her, take her shopping or something, make sure theres reasons there for her to look after her self.

I hope things start to turn around.
PM me if you need a chat.

Jess

[Banshee-Screamer]

my sister is not getting any help the only thing that seems to be happening is my dad yelling at her to eat and telling her to eat and telling her that if she dont eat she wont be going to see her boyfriend, my is convinsed that she is threwing her sandwhichs away at lunch at school. my sister does eat but does not eat alot today she ate some cake it wasnt much cake but it was cake! i dont really get on with my sister but i am worried about her she is soooooo thin sometimesi wish i was that thin i have lost weight i can fit into my jeans from miss selfridge and my jodpurs that never used to fit me now fit me. i do often offer her sweets and stuff and when the ice cream van comes buy her sweets only because i no she will eat them i no there is not alot in sweets but she eats them which is good i just hate seeing my sister like this and my dad threatening her with if you dont eat you casnt see your boyfriend aint helping coz then she gets stressed and stuff and they end up arguing. i dont like them arguing but at the same time i cant help but think at least he not shouting at me i no i shouldnt think that but i do. in the summer i am hoping the ice cream van comes everyday so i can buy her sweets everyday. today my dad was telling her your making yourself ill and my sister did not seem to care!

[floatingangel]

hey hun, i'd say, take care of yourself first! when you show that you can live a happy life without caring about food and still be confident and beautiful, your sis is gonna take the hint. i know that's so super duper hard that you'd back out one week into trying it, but don't back out. do all you can, find out how you can stop thinking about food. you're worth way beyond your looks. don't buy into the whole "you gotta be skinny to fit in/ be beautiful" thing. you are beautiful the way you are. you gotta take control of your mind.
i know this sounds harsh and difficult, and hey, you might not even want to do it. but think about it, if someone you knew had eating problems and emerged a stronger better person free from her previous bondage from food, would you be encouraged to right your life? it's the same thing. your sister has to believe that she could be happy without having to starve herself...

[Banshee-Screamer]

my sister ate a whole plate of food and did not leave any last night she had two slices of pizza and some lettuce.

[MegaMadness]

Well that's a good start. Maybe you take your sister aside and have an honest conversation with her. Tell her that your worried and that you do care about her. Just be careful that it dosen't sound too much like a lecture.