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My friends...? - April 6th 2010, 08:47 PM

Do my friends really have the right to follow me to the bathroom after lunch and ask me 20 questions on how/why I've been losing all this weight or what i've been doing? I don't think it's any of their business, is it? They're frusterating me so much. I know they "care" about me, but do they really have the right? any input is appreciated...
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Re: My friends...? - April 6th 2010, 09:51 PM

The right to follow you into the bathroom?...I guess technically there's no rule against it, like Thou must not follow others into bathroomical quarters, but I can see why it's causing you distress. Should they be concerned? I can see why you would want them to "accept you as you are" but nobody wants to let a friend go on hurting herself. Still, there are probably better ways to show that they care. You should talk to them. Let them know what's up. You owe them that much.
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Re: My friends...? - April 6th 2010, 10:17 PM

Technically your friends do have the right to ask you questions about your health. They seem to be really concerned about you if they're following you to the bathroom and asking you questions. I can understand why you feel frustrated, but it just seems that they just want to know how you're feeling and why you've been losing weight. If there isn't a problem, you should put it to rest and tell them that there there's nothing wrong. If there is, then it's up to you on how to decide how to handle it whether it be telling them or not. In the end, it is your business but your friends may have the right to be concerned.
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Re: My friends...? - April 7th 2010, 12:01 AM

Well, your friends have no legal obligation to give stay out of the bathroom while you are there. And I had the same problem with my friends, they were always asking questions, my best friend I could be honest with, but I just avoided the others for awhile. I understand how annoying it is though, and maybe you should talk to them, or if you go to the bathroom and they follow, just say "Can I just go by myself, you are sticking to me like glue and I really want to be able to go to the toilet by myself, its getting annoying"
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Re: My friends...? - April 8th 2010, 06:41 AM

Hey there,

I understand why you may feel upset because it has annoyed me in the past and present when people comment on my weight loss and press me for details regarding my eating habits and why I eat a certain way and when I eat ...etc.

You shouldn't be upset. They only ask because they care. I wish more people would have noticed sooner so maybe someone could have encouraged me to get help before this disorder spiraled out of control and took over my life. You will need them if you ever want to move past this.

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Re: My friends...? - April 9th 2010, 01:15 AM

Your friends have the same right to go into the bathroom as you do. I know it might be annoying, but they care. I understand where you are coming from, I've had very concerned friends, but it's much worse when they stop asking questions, when they stop commenting on how you are eating and treating you body, trust me on that one.

If you want them to stop, tell them so. You can either tell them the truth, as they do seem to want to help you, or you could just ask for them to back off a little bit. But do it nicely, you don't want to lose your friends over this.

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