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Should I say something? - December 14th 2010, 08:32 PM

I have been worried about my best friend recently. She has lost a lot of weight (when she was already like a perfect/normal/healthy size) is CONSTANTLY talking about food and what she has eaten that day, asking all of her friends what we have eaten so she can compare, checks the calories on EVERYTHING etc.

It started off just wanted to eat healthily and checking calories now and then, but now shes literally giving away her food and throwing it away. She buys it to make out as if she's eating, yet makes an excuse of why she cant eat it.

I know I havent gone into much detail there so if you need more details be free to ask, but I'm pretty certain she's developing an eating disorder.

Question is, how do I help her when she doesn't even know? Do I just sit back and let her get worse? Do I tell her and risk losing a friend?

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Re: Should I say something? - December 16th 2010, 02:18 AM

Honestly I think the right thing to do is tell her what you've noticed and ask if there's anything you can do. I know it'll be really hard and she could get upset. But, if she really is developing a disorder it could only get worse.

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Re: Should I say something? - December 17th 2010, 12:12 AM

Talk to her. Tell her that you've noticed her eating habits, and ask if there is anything you can do to help her. Just being there and listening can be the best thing she needs right now. Sometimes things in life can trigger you into not eating, something gets stressful and you suddenly need that extra bit of control, so letting her talk it out can be good for her. The only thing you can really do is be there. Hang in there hun.

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Re: Should I say something? - December 23rd 2010, 03:22 AM

ED can be a really sensitive topic if your friend really does have one. Try talking to her, but be really gentle about it. Tell her you noticed she hasn't really been eating all that much recently; and that you've just gotten worried that something may be wrong. Remind her you're always there for her if she needs to talk or vent. Try your very best to not sound accusing, because that will only make her feel corned and she'll get defensive.
Don't pry; but ED is really serious. If it continues on you need to let her parents or a school counselor know.
I almost lost my best friend to anorexia when we were younger, and I thank God she pulled through. She (unwillingly) got help when it was verging way too close to too late. Don't wait and don't hesitate to go to an adult to get your friend help if she wont admit to it or get it herself. Even if she hates you for it, it'll be worth it to have saved her life.

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Re: Should I say something? - December 23rd 2010, 06:20 AM

def. talk to her. If it is an ED its better that you guys take care of it now rather than later. Things could get ugly if you wait=( Let her know that you are always there for her and want nothing more but to help her.

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