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Grrr... - January 11th 2011, 04:53 PM

My mum thinks I'm not eating, and she won't believe me when I say I am. She keeps asking me if I've had breakfast and then looking at me like "I don't believe you" when I say I have. Well it's not my fucking fault she's never up in time to see me eat. What am I supposed to do, take my breakfast up to eat in her bedroom so she can see me? And she keeps on asking what I've got in my lunch, which is always sandwiches, and then acting like she doesn't believe me. I know I didn't exactly eat a huge amount over the holidays, but I wasn't exactly awake for much of the day, and there's no point in eating three meals in a seven hour day. It's just so fucking irritating that she won't believe me that I'm eating fine.

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Re: Grrr... - January 11th 2011, 11:39 PM

Hey Jessy,

That is certainly a... unique problem! Wow. I think your mother sounds a little overly paranoid.

For starters, you could ask her why she thinks you’re not eating. Try not to take responses like “I know it” that don’t actually say anything. Don’t get mad at her – after all, you’re the one who wants an answer – but try not to stop until you have a real answer, one that you can actually make a logical response to.

Also, if talking to her doesn’t work... then yeah! Take your breakfast up to her bedroom! Tap her on the shoulder, tell her “Hey mom, look, I’m eating!”, sit down on the floor/a chair, and just eat. That thing about actions speaking louder than words is usually pretty true.

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Re: Grrr... - January 12th 2011, 12:02 AM

Yeah, that's really weird.
Was this just something she suddenly started doing with absolutely no provocation at all, or might there have been some event that started her worrying about it? I mean, I've known people whose parents have done the same thing, but they kind of had a reason, so I'm not really sure.
I would recommend doing what Diaminohexanoate said, and just talk to her. There is probably a reason she's just not sharing with you. But don't act annoyed or anything--just ask politely why she would think that for no reason.

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Re: Grrr... - January 12th 2011, 07:02 AM

Jessy,

My parents were the same way. Of course, they had a reason to be. Is there a reason your mum might think that you are not eating? There isn't really much you can do, besides talking to her about it and eating in front of her, or packing your lunch in front of her. I know it's frustrating when she doesn't believe you, but eventually she might back off a bit.

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Re: Grrr... - January 12th 2011, 06:42 PM

Honey, try not to let it get to you. If you get defensive about it, she'll instinctively believe you've got something to hide. It's irritating, I know, but if you show her you're eating and you've packed a good lunch, she should stop worrying and leave you alone for a bit. Take care sweetie xx




   
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