It's like my mom WANTS me to have an ED

[Justin Bieber]

I'd rather not post in this forum, but I've reach a point where I'm just freaking tired of it. I know I am not eating enough calories in a day. I have had gone through times where I've eaten nothing/little and other times where I've purged food, but I've never had an eating disorder.

This summer, I had a goal to lose weight without resorting to unhealthy habits. The problem is that my mom is crazy.... She wants me to eat *nothing* Today we fought over THREE MINI PRETZELS. I decided to take three mini pretzels for a snack/ my entire lunch... and she yelled at me the whole ride to school talking about how disappointed she is, how I'm over eating.... how I will never lose weight and look good.

I can only have so much confidence in myself. I can only ignore her so much. But I can't stand being ripped into ALL THE TIME. I get yelled at for eating salad. For eating the ENTIRE egg and not just the egg white.

I work out 9 times a week and burning a lot of calories. And I *know* that twice a week I am burning WAY OVER what I'm eating. the other 5 days are a little closer to breaking even.... but a lot of those calories are from a couple apples, salad/vegetables and an egg or two. I *do* eat fish/chicken for dinner along with at least a couple bites of carb.... but if I ever want more.... She'll let me know how gross I really am.


I'm finding it hard enough to do this the right way WITHOUT her chiming in. No matter what I say to her... it doesn't matter. She continues to dig into me. Or she'll end the conversation with something like, "Well, you can just be unhealthy and fat, don't come crying to me when you get diabetes"


Any advice? Support?

[bailatyvm]

You know she's wrong, so ignore her. You have to do your best to push her out because sometimes, mother DOESN'T know best. Does she want you to pass out or end up in a hospital? Sure sounds like it. You keep doing what you WANT to do, not what she's telling you. She might be telling you this because of jealousy. But yeah, block her out!! You know what's up and it's not what she's telling you!

[Heartlines.]

I agree with what's said above. Your mom is encouraging unhealthy habits. You seem to be struggling with all this. While she is your mom and cares about you, you have to care about yourself. And by this I mean you may have to cut your mom off. I know you've tried talking to her, but maybe you should try again. Be firm with her. Tell her that you do not appreciate her negativity and that if she wishes to maintain an important roll in your life (or something to that effect), that she should encourage you to be healthy, and support you in making positive life habits. At least this is what I would do. Amy, you have to take control on this. You have a shit ton of will power. Use it. I hate to see you struggling, and treated like this.

[Justin Bieber]

Originally Posted by bailatyvm

You know she's wrong, so ignore her. You have to do your best to push her out because sometimes, mother DOESN'T know best. Does she want you to pass out or end up in a hospital? Sure sounds like it. You keep doing what you WANT to do, not what she's telling you. She might be telling you this because of jealousy. But yeah, block her out!! You know what's up and it's not what she's telling you!

Thanks for the advice I am trying to ignore the harsh comments. I actually *have* passed out before when I have listened to her.... in which she's responded with something such as.... "I didn't REALLY mean that" or whatever... Thanks for the reply

Originally Posted by Amoroso

I agree with what's said above. Your mom is encouraging unhealthy habits. You seem to be struggling with all this. While she is your mom and cares about you, you have to care about yourself. And by this I mean you may have to cut your mom off. I know you've tried talking to her, but maybe you should try again. Be firm with her. Tell her that you do not appreciate her negativity and that if she wishes to maintain an important roll in your life (or something to that effect), that she should encourage you to be healthy, and support you in making positive life habits. At least this is what I would do. Amy, you have to take control on this. You have a shit ton of will power. Use it. I hate to see you struggling, and treated like this.

<3

Thanks Lynds. I'm trying to work with her, still... and at least she's become a little less vile, since I think she's just given up on me. I'm trying to get some control... well USE my control... I appreciate the support I'm hoping things will get easier soon!

[Kristen♡]

Both of these girls have given you perfect responses. You do what's best for you. <3
Good luck!

[JKmadu619]

Well it could be that your mom has an eating disorder herself and because you are her child she feels the need to share how repulsive SHE personally finds eating with you. She could be stuck up or she could be mean. Just because she is your mother does not give her the right to speak to you like that, nor does it grant her infinte wisdom. I know how useless this advice is, but ignore her for a little while longer until you move out. (I see that your age is 19, so I can assume this is in a few years.)

- Justin