mom called me fat

[Kendall Ann]

I'm not in the mood for a long story so here it is, straightforward. My moms been being a bitch lately and she called me fat, I was already depressed. Now I'm back to my old habits of avoiding food and attempting to reject food. I'm also probably going to cut or burn but that goes somewhere else. Life sucks, kill me?

[.Jess.]

Oh Kendall You're Mom had no right to call you what she did, that's not okay and she shouldn't have done it. How is you're relationship with you're Mom normally? Do you have a good relationship with her or is a quite a strained one? Does she know how much it hurts you when she calls you things like this? Perhaps if you felt comfortable it would be an idea to let her know those words really trigger horrible feelings for you? I'd hope she'd respect that and reframe from calling you such horrible things.

I am sure you know how unhealthy avoiding and rejecting food is. I know you're hurting at the moment and you're upset at what has happened but turning to unhealthy ways of coping isn't okay. You can make yourself really poorly and no one wants to see that happen to you. You need food to fuel you're body so you can function on a daily basis. Are there any foods you feel safe and comfortable eating? If you are struggling to feed yourself then eat those and push yourself slowly to eat different foods.

Keep talking to people about this Don't let you're feelings overwhelm you and get too much. Look after yourself and take care

[lola jonson]

my mom called me fat once. i'm extremely skinny so it made no sense and made me feel terrible. she shouldnt have said that to you. you shouldnt give her any satisfaction for what she said by not eating or doing other things to hurt yourself.

[WillO'Wisp]

That is a horrible thing for your Mother to say to her own Daughter! Don't let anything she says get to you. You're not fat and whatever she says is wrong. She's just being mean and bitter and is saying hurtful things to you, but ignore her. Don't give her the satisfaction. Don't cut or burn yourself over this because it isn't worth it. Is there any other family members or friends you can stay with for awhile to get away from her? This negative energy coming from her and you being around her isn't good for you.

[Revolution]

I'm so sorry this happened to you! However, because you already said you're skinny, I bet she said it out of anger, not because of an actual issue with weight. If you are worried about it, I would see a doctor. However, I can tell you know the truth behind this. Don't let it affect how you see yourself-You're beautiful the way you are! Fights with parents suck, but it will get better! Don't let it bring you down. PM me if you ever need!

[Heartlines.]

I'm so sorry to hear that you're mom called you that. That's horrible. You're mom should not be calling you that. In fact, no one should be calling anyone fat. It's rude and it's hurtful. I would not let what your mom said get to you. I know it's hard, but you just can't. It's not worth burning or cutting yourself either. If I were you, I would talk to your mom. Tell her how much her comment affected you, and that comments like those are not helpful and to please refrain from comments like that in the future.

Don't let this destroy you though. You're much stronger than you think. Don't let one comment affect you. If you aren't happy with the way things are, then change it! But do it healthy. Prove to your mom that you're better than how she treats you, because you are. I know it's hard to hear things like that, but you can totally bounce back! don't give into self harm. It won't help. Stay strong.

I know this wasn't very helpful, but know that I'm here to talk if you need me.
Take care<3

[Pelios]

Hi Kendall
First off, it was really rude and inappropriate of your mom to call you fat no one should call another person fat especially if you are skinny. One time my grandmother called me fat I don't know if she meant it or not but if really hurt my feelings and it even made me think about my weight she is a really old fashion person that just tells you things without thinking of the consequences or not caring.
What matters now is how you act about what your mother told you. If you let that affect you, you will allow your mother to win. If you start avoiding food and going back to cutting or burning you let your mother win. Prove her wrong don’t let her words affect you, yes she called you fat and it really hurt you but don’t let this bring you down next time she calls you fat let it go in one ear and out the other.
Good Luck we are here for you.