I don't know what to do anymore

[Cats315]

I hate my body. I weigh about [X] which is pretty heavy for a person my age and height. It makes me so depressed at how all the girls get to wear all the pretty clothes and get all the boys, While I'm sitting there like a fat blob. I do workout and try to limit my calorie intake, but it's just isn't enough. Nothing's working. I wish I could be like those girls. Maybe I should just starve myself, then maybe I will be one of those girls who gets to wear all the pretty clothes and gets all the boys. I have never been once been called pretty or beautiful ( people in my family and my friends, do not count). I wish a random boy, would come up to me and say that I was pretty and beautiful for once. In the meantime, maybe I should just starve myself so I can be skinny so I can be called pretty.

[Choose]

Cathy, I am not sure if you can take solace in this, but you are not the only one who has ever felt like this. We naturally try and seek acceptance from our peers and loved ones. Starving yourself is not a good option due to all the health complications and even mental complications that can come with it. There is a better way to go about it. My suggestion would be to perhaps consult a dietitian and make sure you're on track between diet and workouts (diet is usually the problem from what I've experienced).

Please don't fret too much. I know it's rough feeling the way you do (I have had issues with this before), but you can get on track without going down an unhealthy route. Someone will appreciate you or already DOES appreciate you for who you are and how you look. If you ever wanna talk, let me know.

Take care,
Alex

[Revolution]

Cathy, I am a random girl, and I am here to call you beautiful. I have never seen you, but I know that you are probably a very beautiful person.

I'm so sorry that you've been feeling this way. Throughout middle school, I felt the EXACT way. I would go to school in a baggy sweatshirt and jeans and just hope nobody would see me. I would see all the other girls in clothes I would love to wear and with boys I would love to be with, and I wanted to be like them. I began exercising at night excessively, restricting my eating, and purging everything I ate. My health went down, I was constantly sick, and I really didn't lose a whole lot of weight. It was just a path of self destruction.

You are not alone in your feelings, but rather than keeping to yourself alone, talk to somebody. Do you have a friend or an adult you trust to share your feelings with? This is not something that you should go through alone. Getting help for your bad feelings can be able to make you happy, lose weight if you need to, and have the confidence to wear those kind of clothes and get the boys that you desire! It's not a weight that gets the clothes/boys, it's confidence. I hope this helped a bit or at least made you feel a little less alone.

[Heartlines.]

Hey there,

You're a beautiful person. There is beauty in you. Unfortunately, we grow up in a time where society says that skinny, blonde hair, blue eyes, big boobs is perfect? But let me tell you something, boys like curves. My boyfriend dated a really small girl, which made me feel bad because I have curves. He tells me all the time that he likes my body so much more because there is actually something there. You CAN wear beautiful clothes. It's all about what's flattering on your body. And trust me, you can find really nice clothes for all shapes and sizes. You have to learn to see the beauty in yourself before others can see it in you. It's all about confidence in the beauty you have. And trust me, you have it!

I don't encourage starvation in the slightest. Starving yourself is horrible. Painful, emotionally and physically. I was always freezing, my skin was cold, I was shakey for a constant three weeks due to lack of nutrition. Everything I did had to be perfect, or I was a failure. I compared myself to everyone. Everything was over analyzed. God, it was a nightmare. And it's not worth it. You won't be happy with an Eating Disorder. I promise. Ask anyone with an eating disorder, or recovering from one. If you want to lose weight, exercise and eat healthy. I've heard more success stories with this, than with starvation. And you lose more weight doing it the healthy way anyways. Not to mention, you'll feel happier in mind body and spirit.

I want you to do something for me. Buy a package of note cards. On every single note card write a positive quote, a compliment someone has given you, and things you like about yourself. I want you to decorate these note cards. Get creative. Then, get a bowl, a shoe box or a jar of some kind and put all the note cards in there. Put said box/jar/bowl in a special spot where you'll remember it. You can even decorate this as well. Every morning when you get up, draw one note card out. Read it. Reflect on it. And believe it. When you're feeling down through out the day, pull that same note card out of your pocket and read it. This is meant to be a self esteem booster. You can always add to the shoe box as well. I really hope you give this a shot.

People think you're beautiful. It's time you start believing it. <3

[teebag01]

I am an averaged size and still I've never been called beautiful. Its not all about being skinny - it was hard for me to stay on track when I was at dance college where everybody seemed to be beautiful, on a constant diet and ridiculously skinny. These girls called themselves fat and I used to think, what must you think of me?!
But I remained true to myself, I fought those thoughts which you are having and I'm so happy I did. Theres nothing better than sticking on some great music, dolling yourself up and just looking in the mirror. Learn to love what you see. Anybody can be beautiful, and even though you may not have found that special someone (i havent either, dont worry!) he is out there!
The notes thing is a really good idea, my college had me try it when I was really low after a term of feeling complete rubbish and it really did help. I found myself doing things a lot better, which gives you more things to write about!!
Please dont go down the unhealthy route, because IF you lose weight, as soon as you start eating again, it will come back with a vengeance!! The best way is bit by bit, for longer term results that will leave you feeling amazing, for much, MUCH longer.
And to be honest, there's nothing better than a good old chocolate bar sometimes! xxxx

[jojo92]

just from what you wrote i can tell you are beautiful. yess that is corny and what not but you are.